Our 2 year old daughter has such an on/off relationship with her daddy (my husband). I’d say 40% of the time she doesn’t want to know him, she tells him he’s a monster, she hits him, she plays up a lot for him, she’s always crying for me. I find it really hard. Yes of course he loves her and plays with her, but like most men, he’s lazy, and like most people, he can’t be changed. I’ve tried time and time again to get him to have Daddy-Daughter Dates and actually take her out not because he has to, but because he wants to (and put his phone AWAY!!). I can’t imagine a day when he just takes her out and not with me. I’m 110% the default parent. Yes I love that she wants me to much, but that also means I take the lions share of everything. He’s also a lot more prone to raising his voice than me.
My question is not for comments back on him really, he is a good daddy for the most part, I just needed to set context. I’d like to know if other people had the same issue with the other live-in parent as part of a relationship and whether it might change with her age?