My friend is really struggling with her 6 yr old. She is verbally abused spat at sworn out and by her DD on a regular basis and she doesn't know what to do. Her daughter is very bright and loves school and she displays none of these behaviours at school. She has been put on a special gifted and talented program at school and spends 2 mornings a week in a year 5 class.
But my friend cannot set any boundaries because she will not do anything she doesn't want to do and she will hit and kick and spit until she gets her own way. Friend works in the city in a high flying job so is seldom at home. Her daughter attends wrap around care and again she is perfectly behaved but she just tends to read as she doesn't really engage in play at all. School will not refer to childrens paediatrics for any diagnosis as they say she is perfect at school so last year my friend paid for a private diagnosis and they have said she is autistic - friend thought this would change her life and that miraculously with a diagnosis things would improve!!
This week things have taken a massive downturn and she has started to be racist when out and about and spitting and swearing at people who are different to her. My friend is close to putting her in care as she has no family support as she is the same with everyone unless at school - I have seen her when she is at her worst and she is really is scary - she lashed out at me last time for trying to stop her hitting her mum in the stomach. She lashes out at adults (friends and family) but never children. The only time she is calm is when she is reading and if you let her read all day every day she would be fine.
Friend has been signed off work with stress and exhaustion but it means as she is home more now she is being abused by her more and more.
She isn't sure what to do next and I think she really is this close to putting her in care.