Hello all.
So I’ve posted before but didn’t get many replies. Basically, the last 2-3 months my 3 year old has gradually become really difficult to handle.
even from being born he’s always been hard work, but felt like we turned a corner after his little brother was born this year. The first few months were amazing but gradually his behaviour has changed.
when he’s good, he’s great! So so caring, tells me he loves me, gives me random kisses, very smart and can have a great conversation. However I feel like he’s really regressed. Examples below.
- Punching me (with fists) even on my head
- throwing some big toys at me and his baby brother
- pretending to spit at me.
- pulling my hair out
- kicking me
- cslling me a dirty old boy (!?)
- started wetting himself on purpose even though potty trained and asking for nappies
- Stealing his brothers dummies and having the biggest meltdown ever when I take them off him (again weaned off these no problem in April… 4 months after his brother was born so don’t know why it’s an issue all of a sudden)
- developed a stutter
- he’s not conversing as much.
I’ve tried all the gentle parenting techniques and even firm ones. I’ve read the ‘how to talk so little kids will listen’ there’s only so much I can remember from the book in the heat of the moment I can never remember what to say.
even when the baby is down for a nap, I really make the effort to play with him 1-1 and have us time. But he ruins it by just throwing his toys around, not listening, e.g we will be in the middle of a jigsaw and he will just break it all up and stomp on it.
he attends nursery 2x days a week and with his grandma 1x day a week. They have no issues with him and always praise him.
im really worried his little brother (who is just so calm, smiley, etc) is going o eventually pickup on his bad behaviour and also act like this 😭