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Can I prevent dd1 (4) having a lifelong fear of dogs?

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wessexgirl · 21/04/2008 23:19

Dd1 is 4 and was chased by an exuberant puppy in the park the other day, to the point where she fell over on the grass screaming her head off. Is there any way I can prevent this nasty experience turning into a fear of dogs in general? (I have been afraid of dogs since being bitten at the age of 7/8-ish myself).

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gigglewitch · 21/04/2008 23:21

is there a suitably aged or docile hound in your area or owned by a friend to 'make friends' with - i.e. one that won't have the mad puppy mentality which frightened her?

pinkbubble · 21/04/2008 23:25

WG, if you can find the answer will you let me know, as I am seriously considering talking to GP as DD3 has a chronic fear of not only dogs but cats as well.

She has never had a bad experience of any animal, and I have asked her what would she do if I got a puppy! She told me she would live in her room!

KITTENSOCKS · 22/04/2008 09:02

I was afraid of dogs from a very young age, what happened (although I couldn't remember it) was a large and over friendly labrador came over to my pushchair and licked my face continuously, and although I tried to push it away, nothing would make it stop. From then on I was afraid and can recall not wanting to be in the same room as a dog until I was at least 7, and after that age only if dog was restrained. I was always fine with rabbits and cats.

You could try the Dr. but I think they will recommend a desensitisation type therapy, where the child is subjected to gradual exposure to the feared creature. You could do this yourself if you know of a well trained placid dog who will help you!! You start by the child watching the dog through a window, or from the other side of a fence, a physical barrier between them. When this is OK to the child, the next step is to have both in the same room or garden, where the dog is restrained or can be trusted to just lie down and not approach the child. When the child is relaxed about this, you could progress to touching the dog, this is why it needs to be a dog who will just sit there and not try to lick or jump. One touch is sufficient at first, as the child becomes braver it can progress to stroking.

Eventually, with more and more exposure to a gentle natured dog who never responds adversely, the child should relax enough for the dog to be unrestrained and approach the child. If at any stage the child panics, you go back to the stage before, until there is complete confidence.

I wish my parents had done something similar for me, it took until I was 13 before I was confident around dogs!! The one that cured me was my aunts' border collie, the most well trained and gentle dog, and utterly trustworthy with toddlers.

Good luck, I hope this works for you and DD. It can be quite socially limiting, trying to avoid going to places where there might be dogs!!

brimfull · 22/04/2008 09:07

good on you for trying to prevent the phobia

I see a boy near here who is about 10 and he is terrified of dogs.It is very debilitating for him as he lives next to a field used for playing and by dog walkers.
Such a shame.He races home as soon as he sees one.

Desensitising is the way to go I think.

boomie · 22/04/2008 09:25

We have just been away with friends and their little boy (aged 3) was absolutely hysterical around our puppy who is 7 months old. Our puppy was always on a short lead and obviously as their child was terrified we made sure she never went near him. It was very draining for me to look after my own children and ensure that the dog was pinned to my side the whole time.

I asked the parents what the problem was (ie had their little boy had a bad experience etc) and they said it was because he wans't used to them. The parents made no effort to try and reduce this fear which was a shame as our puppy (a black lab) is very placid. At one point the little boy had a big stick to defend himself!!!

As other people have said desensitising is the way forward and also teaching children (as we have with ours) that if you respect a dog, they will respect you. Holding a big stick to hit the dog if it comes near you is not a good idea!!

Othersideofthechannel · 22/04/2008 09:35

Wessex, there is hope DS had a bad experience with a boisterous puppy when he was 3.6. He was then scared of all dogs he met, even on leads.

Then he started school and I returned to work, in the hols he goes to a CM with 2 well behaved child friendly medium sized dogs. He was nervous at first but now he is 5 and looks forward to going there so he can cuddle his favourite dog on the sofa while the younger children are napping.

Now he wants us to get a dog.

It will be harder for you with your fear but not impossible.

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