Please help my 3yr has started to regress and he starts nursery on thursday!

[Elloeise]

My ds 3yrs 3mths (only child) has been toilet trained for the past 7 mths or more and on saturday i recived a letter saying he had been offered a place in a LEA nursery insaul visit tomma am and then for him to start on thursday doing 5 morrings a week.
I havent mentioned nusery to him before as i wasnt expecing him to go untill sept (only been given a sept staring date two weeks ago ). As from sunday i started to tell him how he would be going, what fun it would be all the things he would be doing and how i would go shopping but always always cum bak for him.

Anyway since then he has started only just getting to the toilet on time and having wet pants or having accidents again and i'm at a loss as to what to do, i just keep telling him it doesnt matter and to try and remember in time next time as he is becoming quite upset over it.

We go to lots of parent and toddler groups where he is a happy and confident little boy. So if anyone has any advice on how to tackle this problem or how to settle him in to nursery it would be gratfully recived!

Thank you

I think he did really well to be dry for 7 months, he might be nervous about it but the nursery staff will be very used to seeing this. make sure you pack plenty of changes of clothes for him and perhaps work with the nursery on a plan. Rewards/star charts etc.

I'm sure he'll get back into the swing of things but you sound like you are doing everything absolutley right .

Don't talk to him about it anymore. It is probably fear of the unknown. You'll probably find everything will return to normal once he's been there a few times.

he's nervous imo, he's been told something different is going to happen, that involves change.

He's only 3, which is so young, my dd has been having wee regression and she is 6 next week.
This has been due to emotional stuff.

Perhaps you could start a chart? My dd didn't need one firts time round, and my gp suggested it after 2 motnhs of weeing accidents. Just puts a positive spin on it iyswim. I kept saying to my dd 'oh its ok (naturally) don't worry' but it got to the point where there was no improvement, sort of a feelign that 'mummy said its ok'.

That happened with my dd pirate. I told her it was ok, didnt matter. But it does matter as they then get the message that they can do that. You have to be very careful what you say.

yes , after a few weeks of it, I was very aware that my sympathy was probably not going to 'help' somehow.

Sometimes I got annoyed, with the situation, not with her, just the having to change her again.

Anyway, time will tell op, positivity came by way of this chart we do now.

Thank you all for your support and advice!
The thought that the nursery maybe use to it and other children may have suffured with it didnt even acare (sp?) to me - dont know why
I will most deffently speak to the nursery about it and were off out for sickers this afternoon, so now it's just a case of hoping and waiting to see what happens.
Thank you all again i really appreicate it

I think it will sort itself out once ds gets used to nursery and realises what a good time he has there. Good luck