2.5 year old ds not happy due to arrival of ds2??

[worrymummy]

i have posted about this before but can't find it so will try again, hope that's ok.

my ds2 has always been boisterous and strong willed but generally very happy and cheerful. recently he has been crying, wingeing, shouting, having tantrums, not wanting to interact with other children. he has been saying things like - do they like me? will they be happy to see me or not? a couple of times after i have told him off about something he has said things like i don't like myself.

ds2 came along 4 months ago and i'm assuming this is part of the reaction and he's feeling insecure, not getting as much attention as he used to etc.(although he still gets most of my attention).

i'm finding him so difficult, he is being naughty, pushing boundaries, blanking me out when i try to talk to him and i'm really starting to lose my temper (shouting), which doesn't help (also my lack of sleep etc). i don't know how to 'discipline' him while making sure he knows he is loved (which i tell him all the time).

the ironic thing is i am so in adoring of with ds1 i have found it hard to bond with ds2 in the same way!

i know you are not child psychologists - or maybe you are - but there must be lots of mums who have gone through a similar thing with toddlers and siblings?
sorry about the long post and thanks for reading......

I read a really good book about 6mths ago, when expecting DS2: "Three Shoes, One Sock & No Hairbrush- Everything you need to know about having your second child" By Rebecca Abrams.
--- scared me silly to be honest, as I was then awaiting my lovely little boy to turn into devil-child at the arrival of a brother....

but, lots of good advice, told in an interesting, amusing, down-to-earth way, and it lets you know that the behaviour, (and your feelings of loss of control!!!) are just temporary, and you'll get your little little boy back again soon!

(and no, I am not the author in disguise, despite giving it a pretty good ad / write-up!!)

thanks i have heard of it but decided not to read it as too depressing...! but it's always good to know that things are normal and other people have been through it!