My baby seems to cry way more than others do…

[Sben95]

I love my 12 week old baby girl so so much. But she cries SO much… like way more than any other baby I’ve ever met.

Birth was very traumatic, emergency extended c section with a lot of blood loss. So in the early days it was understandable that she cried a lot. I took her to a cranial osteopath to sort out some tension in her head, but to be honest it hasn’t improved things that much.

She still cries and to be frank I feel like she’s just miserable all the time. She is formula fed and has been on SMA, which has made her a bit blocked up, so after doing some research I’m moving her to Kendamil (currently in process of transitioning her over) so we will see if that helps.

But I feel like it’s more than that. She cries in the car seat, pram, even the carrier. I feel like she just gets bored and screams..?! I’ve put sensory toys in the pram and she still cries. Not a pain cry, but more just hysterical crying. If she’s not asleep, she cries to the point where she goes purple and ends up choking. I’ve tried seated unit, still hated it. She calms down once I get her out though, most of the time.

It’s absolutely killing me, whenever I go out I have constant anxiety that she’s about to have a meltdown. I know I shouldn’t, but I get really upset that people stare at me and either give me a head-shake of sympathy or smile because they feel sorry for me. It’s just embarrassing and I keep thinking, surely my baby should be more settled than this? I know babies cry, but it feels like there’s almost something wrong with her? When I’m out I look at other babies and they’re always so chilled in their prams and their mums seem to walk around at their leisure, running their errands etc, not having to worry that their baby is about to scream bloody murder.

At home the only thing that keeps her occupied is baby sensory on YouTube or her super colourful baby gym. Even then, after 20 mins or so she starts getting aggy.

I adore her but my god I am at the end of my tether.

Could it be an allergy? No symptoms like rash or anything. Is there anything else I should be exploring?

I just feel like I’m doing something wrong, I am so anxious and low all the time and I honestly don’t know what to do.

Is anyone else’s baby like this..!? Does anyone have any suggestions?

I would definitely speak to your health visitor or GP just to be on the safe side. If your gut is telling you something is wrong it probably is. We had a very cranky upset baby in the early days, ended up on aptamil pepti for cows milk allergy. He seemed to improve and settle in the day, although suffered with reflux until 5 months old so the evening he cried a lot.

My little one has cmpa and didn't have any rashes. It was all stomach pains and wind. Does she seem worse after a feed?

Hey! My 3rd baby sounds pretty similar... she cried in the pram, sometimes sling, hysterical in the car. It was hideous. Managed to figure out she had cow's milk intolerance... went to the GP and he faffed around with special milks which she hated. In the end we just switched her to soy milk and things were a LOT better. I always advise mums woth 'colicy' babies to consider milk intolerance. There is nothing normal about a baby who cries ALL the time. And we aren't made to be able to cope with that either. Please talk to your GP and perhaps even think about doing a switch to soy yourself. Please also enlist any help or support you can. If people.offer - take them up on it! A family member or friend can handle hearing a baby cry for an hour or two, you have it all day and it is YOUR child so that sound goes through you like a drill. Wishing you luck!