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14m old ASD concerns!

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MumSH99 · 20/09/2024 12:28

Hi I’ve got a 14 month old who I’ve got concerns about I’m looking for an opinion from mums who’s got kids with autism I’ve spoke to my Health visitor but they’re a long waiting list to be seen!

She pretty much met all her milestones crawled around 8/9 walked 13m starting clapping/peekaboo around 9m and said dada mama around 9m she can call the family dog by name says more when she wants more food points to what she wants babbles away waves bye , put phone to her ear and says hiya, pretends to feed her baby her bottle or sippy cup try’s to feed us with her food hugs her teddy gives me and her dad kisses when asked and sometimes without , points to flowers says flowers puts her arms up to be picked up points to belly, teeth , nose and toes when asked , pretends to sneeze when we do can press buttons on iPhone says a few more word bubbles , no , dada , nana , more , Flower , duck , gone a few more she notices when we leave the room and follows us if we ask her to bring us something she will she will
Open the draw get her own snack and bring for us to open for her , brushes her teeth pretend to brush mine when doing her own seems ok with other kids although not round many as only child and no nursery she has good eye contact and responds to her name well

My concerns are recently she has dropped mama for a couple of weeks but hearing it the past couple days some times and before when I use to say 1 she would say 2 or if I said ready she would say Go but hasn’t done so for past 4/5 days , she’s still waking threw the night , Seems like the tantrums are starting to increase she makes some strange noises with her mouth like humming almost , she has a thing with her ears it like she’s picking/ itching them like as in ear wax or something not covering them or plugging them just playing with her ears multiple times a day and dropping the words has concerned me and he most as when Googling it coming up ASD she used to hand flap but haven’t noticed any of that for about 6 weeks she don’t like her hands being dirty she won’t have a tantrum but will come to me with hands out to wipe them hates being strapped in her car seat in the car also sometimes stares into space but when I say her name she easily distracted

Am I over reacting? Isit an gut instinct or isit anxiety is the dropping words concerning she still says other words but drop a couple at the time mama seems to be coming back after a couple weeks but not consistent

also I’m worried about regression now

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sal96 · 20/09/2024 12:41

My 15 month old sounds very similar but he has less words (we’re a two language household though so it is normal). I think she sounds very very typical in terms of development. Please remember all babies stim and do strange things, it’s only if it continues or it’s super excessive that it becomes untypical. Your 14 month old seems slightly ahead of my 15 month old in terms of language although mine walked and crawled a tad earlier (they are all different) and because like you, I worried because of how much asd things you see online, I asked our paediatrician and he said ‘stay off the internet, he’s perfect’. So my advice is, she’s probably developing very typically and your worry is very normal because as mums we simply cannot help ourselves 😅

MumSH99 · 20/09/2024 12:51

sal96 · 20/09/2024 12:41

My 15 month old sounds very similar but he has less words (we’re a two language household though so it is normal). I think she sounds very very typical in terms of development. Please remember all babies stim and do strange things, it’s only if it continues or it’s super excessive that it becomes untypical. Your 14 month old seems slightly ahead of my 15 month old in terms of language although mine walked and crawled a tad earlier (they are all different) and because like you, I worried because of how much asd things you see online, I asked our paediatrician and he said ‘stay off the internet, he’s perfect’. So my advice is, she’s probably developing very typically and your worry is very normal because as mums we simply cannot help ourselves 😅

its so worrying and has me questioning my judgement so much if I’m worrying over nothing or if I generally need to seek some help for her in the uk they’re isn’t much help

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Beth216 · 20/09/2024 12:56

She's only a baby, note the things you've noticed down but try not to worry. Do you think her ears are bothering her? Is it worth getting them checked?

MumSH99 · 20/09/2024 13:00

Beth216 · 20/09/2024 12:56

She's only a baby, note the things you've noticed down but try not to worry. Do you think her ears are bothering her? Is it worth getting them checked?

I’ve got an appointment today for the gp to check her ears

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Row23 · 20/09/2024 13:49

She does sound very normal. My son is 18 months and hates having dirty hands and will ask us to wipe them for him. And your daughter was definitely saying more words than my son was at 14 months.
My HV told me not to compare toddlers / babies as some of them focus on physical milestones, some focus on communication etc, so they develop differently and at different speeds. One minute they’ll be trying to say a new word. The next they’ll be trying to walk. It’s like they focus on one for a while and then go back to the other.
It sounds more like she may have something going on with her ears maybe. Teething can also cause ear pain or discomfort too.

MumSH99 · 20/09/2024 14:01

Thanks for all your replies it doesn’t help when everything seems to be a symptom of autism now she scored fine on her 10-12 month check no concerns and I’m having her ears checked also

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Gingerthecat · 22/09/2024 20:19

She sounds very normal to me , I worried about my son at that age and slightly younger . he used to hand flap and do odd things with his fingers etc but he ( like your baby ) had a very long list of positives . he’s 2 years 2 months now and I don’t have any concerns about him at all , nothing , literally nothing . He’s a totally typical toddler

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