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I'm broken

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Abrokenmum24 · 16/09/2024 09:31

I need someone to talk to. I'm feeling completely broken as a mum of 3 boys. 12, 11 & 3. The constant arguments in the house between the older two is unreal. Also they way they speak to me and their dad is not on. They never know when to stop. We have boundaries and consequences which neither of the them care about. The oldest one believes he never does anything wrong. He's a very angry child. He thinks everyone hates him. Probably doesn't help that when I've finally lost my shit I say some horrible things. I'm so lost. When he eventually calms down he says that he understands what's happened, but then the following day or even later that day it's the same thing. I do think there's some other issues there but obviously trying to get him seen by someone is a long wait. We are waiting for an appointment with psicon for some testing. I've contemplated not being around as I feel it's my fault for them being this way and I don't know how else to cope. I just don't know know what to do anymore. Everything I do is for my children, but as this point in time I don't know what else to do.

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RaeMumsnet · 16/09/2024 16:51

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PolaroidPrincess · 16/09/2024 17:01

.I do think there's some other issues there but obviously trying to get him seen by someone is a long wait. We are waiting for an appointment with psicon for some testing.

I'm sorry OP I don't know what Psicon is? Can you tell us a bit more about the testing? Do you know what he's being assessed for?

My first thought, before I got to this but was it sounds as though he might be Dopamine chasing? My two both have ADHD but they are a bit older now I I can tell them both to stop and go and get their Dopamine somewhere else.

Do either of them do any sports? Would they be willing to start the C25K with you or their DF? They should get them out 3 times a week and give them a natural high.

If they were a bit younger an indoor trampoline would be good but as they are 13 & 11 maybe a punchbag?

And as for you, have you spoken to your GP? It sounds as though you need some support Flowers

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