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My kids are ungrateful, whining little sods and I have had enough

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CrackerOfNuts · 20/04/2008 11:22

Nothing I do for them seems to be good enough, and they are constantly fighting, bickering and whinging until they end up in bed.

I am sick of it, I give up.

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DoodleToYou · 20/04/2008 11:23

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Psychomum5 · 20/04/2008 11:23

I'll join ya.....altho today they are being quite nice, so will reserve my place in the 'I give up' club for the day I truly do need it....

sympathies tho, tis draining when they are lke this!!!

ladytophamhatt · 20/04/2008 11:24

Sounds like our house Nutty.

ScoobyDoo · 20/04/2008 11:25

Cracker i know the feeling, although today has not been to bad, can you let them out to run wild & burn some energy? i am going to let ds & dd out in a bit for some fresh air.

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CrackerOfNuts · 20/04/2008 11:27

It's pouring, so although the idea of chucking them outside is still tempting, I think someone might ring SS.

Tbh it isn't just today, it is all of the time. They are so selfish and ungrateful that I am not sure why I bother doihng anything with/for them at all.

Dd1 - 10 is too mouthy for her own good
Dd2 - 8 manages to have a HUGE strop over the smallest things, about 100 times a day, complete with screaming and slamming doors.
Ds - 5 Will not listen, and seems to think it is his god given right to have whatever he thinks I should buy him.

Honestly, you'd think from their behaviour, that they were really spoilt, but in reality they aren't, so I don't get it.

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mellowma · 20/04/2008 11:27

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Pinkchampagne · 20/04/2008 11:29

Oh dear, it sounds like you're having a morning just like me! No advice I'm afraid, but lots of sympathy!

SmugColditz · 20/04/2008 11:31

What?

Bank holiday tomorrow?

Oh no it fecking is not, he is GOING to SCHOOL!

Oh Gawd is it really?

PinkTulips · 20/04/2008 11:32

god, mine are only 1 and 3 and are just like you describe... i was hoping they'd grow out of it

littlemissbossy · 20/04/2008 11:32

Sounds like most houses up and down the country Nutty. I tell mine I'm going to look up the number for the local orphanage - works on the younger one but the older 2 just look at me, snigger and say "yeh right".
Have you tried star charts?

PinkTulips · 20/04/2008 11:33

bank holiday here is next week, surely may bank holiday is the same there?

ScoobyDoo · 20/04/2008 11:38

Bank holiday i thought it was back to school? god please tell me it is, i can't have more of this!

oh it's raining that makes things even worse then, we have dry weather here at the moment.

Do you seperate them? i have to do this with mine as they continuously fight, bite & scream at each other!

mellowma · 20/04/2008 11:39

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CrackerOfNuts · 20/04/2008 11:47

I have just paid £72 for swimming lessons for Dd2 and Ds.
Ds enjoyed the lesson but then sat and moaned all the way through dd2's lesson because I wouldn't agree to let him watch Transformers when we got back.
I told him to not mention it again, because if he did then he wouldn't watch anything at all. So what does he do, ask me about another 100 times.

Dd2 basically moaned at every given oppotunity, except for when she was actually in the water.

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CrackerOfNuts · 20/04/2008 11:48

I just always end up feeling like, I wish I hadn't bothered.

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blanktyblank · 20/04/2008 13:22

my kids and be very ungrateful too especially at the times that we have spent alot of money on them,it seems to be much worse then.
im sure that i never acted like that when i was young ,maybe its just a sign of the times

SmugColditz · 20/04/2008 14:03

It's not a sign of the times, I think a lot of it is expecting them to be grateful for something they actually don't understand is a lot of time/effort/money for you. So you feel like you have given a lot, but they don't appreciate it, because they are not really as bothered about doing it as you think they would be, or because they are used to doing it.

Try knocking all the 'treat' things on the head for a week, I think yours are old enough to understand "This is real life, the other stuff is a bonus, and you are lucky to get it"

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CrackerOfNuts · 20/04/2008 14:07

Thing is Colditz, apart from the swimming, which wee just started today, and brownies, tey don't do anything else anyway, and they don't get alot else either.

I am not one for buying them stuff just for the sake of it, sweets or toys and so they gets those things very occasionally.

I can't knock the swimming or browines on the head for a week because I pay for them in blocks and can't afford to have paid if they don't go. I can't really afford them fullstop, but I want them to have access to these things.

Perhaps I do expect too much of them, I don't know.

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Janni · 20/04/2008 14:09

Burst into tears and tell them you just can't take it any more.

Works a treat on mine

SmugColditz · 20/04/2008 14:10

Well, what is it you are expecting them to be grateful for?

TBH they are probably reacting just like all kids do, but because you struggle to pay for these things it feels a lot more loaded with emotion and importance to you.

charliecat · 20/04/2008 14:14

Can I join in?
Mine have moaned because I took them to the cinema, moaned because they have to go swimming (my bill was £150 by the way)(they bloody love it when they are in there they just whinge before and after). They moan if I drag them out; they whinge if we dont go out for the day.
They are just walking mess machines and I have said I will give them a pound a week but deduct a penny for every bit of litter I find.
They didnt moan when I took them to chessington. They did complain of being bored the next day.
They also complain daily about the food I offer and whinge because "you only let us have fruit". Pour Souls.
So last night, as im fed up of throwing dinners in the bin I said have a bowl or cereal. Im not cooking for it to be fed to the bin.
Of course they told my mum today
and I explined why and she said I dont blame you.
Pesky buggers lol

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CrackerOfNuts · 20/04/2008 14:24

I'm not sure Colditz, but with the elder 2 in partic, they moan moan moan when we do nothing, but then when I do do sometihng with them or pay for them to do something, they don't seem to care.

Dd2 has been asking to do swimming lessons for ages and she does know that I struggle to pay for these things, as I don't feel I should act like money grows on trees with them, and so I finally agree and take her, and she moaned so much I just wished i'd taken her half of the fees and gone and got drunk.

I am sure I was not such an ungrateful brat as a child, but then that said, I didn't get to do dancing,swimming, brownies i any of the things that they do anyway, so not sure.

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CrackerOfNuts · 20/04/2008 14:26

Dd2 is a bit funny actually, because she can be very grateful, but normally about things that I didn't think twice about doing, for example she thanked me several times the other day for tidying her room.

I dunno, i think someone must of nicked my manuel

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