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The tale of the 1 year old & no sleep

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thedumpingground · 11/09/2024 22:29

Question that's probably been asked since the dawn of time. DS is 13 months. Always been a terrible night sleeper. He has a nap in the day usually from around 12pm until 1:30pm. We put him in his cot around 7/7:30 with his milk & he falls asleep alone. Usually he wakes around 10pm (crying) so we give him another couple of ounces which sends him off to sleep (usually). Quite often he wakes again, always the same, crying or screaming. Instead of feeding him I've tried sitting next to him & sushing, patting his back etc. he just becomes inconsolable & wants to be picked up. Thing is once he's picked up he wants to go downstairs. I have done this before usually for around an hour then settled him back down. I have had a feeble attempt at sleep training but it's failed because he almost makes himself sick from crying/screaming & then coughing so hard. He has a night light, white noise.
He never just wakes in the night chattering, it's always straight to screaming & crying. I know he's little & it could be anything from teething, to a bad dream to having the sudden realisation it's dark & he's alone & just wants comfort. Any ideas I've not thought of would be most welcomed.

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thedumpingground · 12/09/2024 06:31

Also I should add, we try to get him to eat 3 meals a day but he's more of a grazer. Some days he eats like a horse, others he doesn't eat much at all.

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SErunner · 13/09/2024 15:15

He sounds overtired with the frequent distressed wakes. He shouldn't need feeding at night at that age really either. We were still on a 2 nap schedule until 18 months. They need 13-15 hours sleep per day at that age which it doesn't sound like he's getting near with disrupted nights and a short nap?

There are lots of examples online re nap routines but I'd introduce a 30-60 min nap 3 hours or so after he wakes and another 90-120 min nap 3.5 hours after that so he's getting around 2 hours in the day times and aim for 10 overnight. Bedtime about 4 hours after end of last nap.

I'd also stop taking him out of his room when he's unsettled at night, that will confuse his body systems to think it's not sleep time. Set yourself up so you have whatever you need in there with him at the beginning of the night and get a comfy chair for the room if you don't have one already.

Try to up the amount he's feeding in the day so you know he's not hungry and hopefully if he starts to sleep better you can drop the feed.

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