Baby wont sit on my lap doesn't hug

[CarlyR103]

I'm really down as ever since I've had my baby he is now 9 months. He has never been one to sit on my lap he will purposely throw himself backwards and will constantly move around he does it to anyone who holds him. I have never been able to hug him only when he is falling asleep it really gets me down. I was out for a family members birthday meal today and her little girl who is also 9 momths was sitting on her mothers lap and smiling and happy whereas my baby is only happy if he is in his car seat on his own
Has anyone experienced anything similar?

os he a very active baby? Very curious? Crawling and loves to explore. My DD was exactly like this as a baby, she would never sit and cuddle, would only like to be walked about so she could look at stuff, the second I sat down she would wriggle away. It really got me down, I was convinced she didn’t like me and it sent me into a bit of a dark hole tbh. Shes almost 4 now and absolutely lovely. Completely typical curious and very cuddly and lovey. She never stops talking and rarely stops moving! I now have a 16 month old DS he was slightly more cuddly but not hugely. Tbh I think it’s a bit of a myth that babies (especially when they can move) are happy to just sit and cuddle all day. They want to explore the world around them. And some are more curious than others!

If he’s learnt to crawl or stand or trying to walk etc then a lot of babies aren’t keen on sitting or cuddling. My son is 18 months now and it’s only in the past couple of months that he’s started giving us cuddles / staying still if we hold him (and only then if he’s tired or overwhelmed or scared). We always get comments from people that he’s very ‘busy’, always wants to be on the move. I guess some kids don’t want to be restrained - a cuddle to them probably feels like we’re trying to stop them having fun!