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11 yr old being really cheeky and lazy

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DonAli · 07/09/2024 14:48

Does anyone have any tips on how to deal with 11 yr old girl who argues about everything and refuses to tidy up after herself? One example is she was sitting on the sofa and has covered half the sofa in her rubbish, her coat, she has taken her jumper off and I have asked her to put it away and the rubbish in the bin. She said the usual I’ll do it later. I waited 10 minutes and I told her to do it again and she again said later. But I said no it needs to be done now please it’s a mess. She again refused kept saying later. I’ve told her if she didn’t do it she will lose her pocket money she said she didn’t care. I then said she was grounded for a week for being so cheeky and that she needed to tidy up after herself. She said if I’m already grounded there’s no point cleaning it up now then and she stormed off to her room. How would you handle this? I’ve always taught her to tidy up after herself and rubbish belongs in the bin. She doesn’t care now.

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madnessitellyou · 07/09/2024 14:55

Does she have any devices? WiFi off until she does. If you have to do that more than once, she’ll lose her devices.

Grounding seems pointless at 11, sorry.

PolaroidPrincess · 08/09/2024 08:19

Well that escalated quickly!

When my DD was around the same age my DSIL leant me a copy of Untangled.

I think all Mums should be given a copy of it when their DD's reach about 10 Wink

LauraNorda · 08/09/2024 08:21

Wifi turned off (for her devices only) and all the crap on the sofa scooped up and put on her bed.

teaandkittehs · 10/09/2024 20:37

madnessitellyou · 07/09/2024 14:55

Does she have any devices? WiFi off until she does. If you have to do that more than once, she’ll lose her devices.

Grounding seems pointless at 11, sorry.

Agreed - forgive my awful joke (i was born in 1980) but taking away is the new hitting. They love their phones, ipads, x boxes etc. It won't solve all the problems, my stepson become an AH from about 11, but taking away a device or at least threatening it is a real motivator for him!

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