Hi everyone. Looking for some advice or help if possible...
3 months ago we had out second baby. My daughter, now 4, found it hard at the beginning but has got a LOT better since and is pretty much back to how she was prior to the baby. She has however started to be really down on herself recently. She always used to be a really confident, resilient kid who would have a go of most things and loved trying new things and was great at getting out of her comfort zone. She was really good at brushing herself off when she had setbacks. Recently she is extremely defeatist, gets very easily frustrated when she can't do something and is goving up almost before she even starts. Even the simplest of things that she used to do day in day out, she says she can't do. She's refusing to try new things and is shutting down and crying a lot. She's also starting to say she can't do something whilst she's doing it. I.e. "I don't know how to ride my scooter" while she's literally on it, riding it as she always has. Dad and I are reminding her she knows how to do things and trying to be as laid back and positive as we can in responding to her. We don't want to make a big deal of pandering to the behaviour as I feel a lot of it is her way of getting attention because of the baby but we also want to rebuild her resilience which has completely disappeared. I just don't know what to do. I feel like the more I talk to her about it and try to help, the worse it makes her. My son is extremely easy and demands relatively little of my time, I spend a lot more time with her but I just feel lost with this new shift in her behaviour and I'm worried I won't get the "old" her back