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Making Dangerous stories

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FirmBlueRaven · 31/08/2024 00:26

My step daughter (4) keeps lying to her mum about what happens when she is with us and I don’t know how else to address it with her. Its not little lies they are quite serious allegations including- Daddy shut the car door on my head, I locked her in the bathroom and most recently we lock her in her bedroom. None of which are obviously true. Last time it happened I sat down with her and asked when the incident had happened and she said she didn’t know so I said maybe it didn’t happen then did it. I told her that you can’t make up stories or say things that aren’t true because people could get in trouble and the police will come and its hurtful and makes us sad and we can’t trust her… and she seemed to take it on board and had no issues until this week.

Does anyone know why she could be doing this (its not that she doesn’t want to be with us cos she always has a good time and cries when its time to go home) or how to go about talking to her to stop it, as its going to get to the point where social services are called (weve got our own baby and I work 2 jobs involving children and DBS so it really would be disastrous) and im not sure how else to talk to her other than to explain its very serious and we could get into big trouble.

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PolaroidPrincess · 31/08/2024 13:06

Are you there when she's saying these things? Is she definitely saying them?

FirmBlueRaven · 31/08/2024 15:26

PolaroidPrincess · 31/08/2024 13:06

Are you there when she's saying these things? Is she definitely saying them?

@PolaroidPrincess well the car door one was confusion the door was slammed shut during a storm last autumn and her dad pushed her so it didn’t slam on her and she got it confused in her head. But the bathroom one I wasnt sure if her mum was making it up as were not exactly on great terms and she tries to take money from us wherever she can so I thought if she says that she wont spend time with us and then her mum can claim maintenance from us. But I my stepdaughter started to refuse to come to us crying saying i lock her in the bathroom so it definitely came from her. But like I said never mentioned it again after we spoke. But now shes started again with the bedroom so I dont know how she’s getting it in her head and she is usually a really good kid and doesnt seem the type to lie for attention or in general.

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PolaroidPrincess · 04/09/2024 19:04

Not sure on that one then sorry Flowers

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