Sibling rivalry between very tiny children

[poodlepusher]

I have 2 babies one is 19 mths the other 4 mths.

I see there are threads on here about specific behvious, i.e. biting, scratching or tantrums etc

but I'm looking for development book recommendations for dealing with 2 under 2.

Any suggestions?

Amazon has thrown up a list of books some of which are more like autobiographical takes on being a sibling to someone with autism etc. There are only 2 about sibling rivalry itself.

Very grateful for any help.

wish I could help but am looking for similar answers to you. dd1 was 20 mths when dd2 was born. dd1 is quite sensitive and clingy and hasn't adjusted very easily. people keep saying it will get better and I believe it will - as soon as dd1 gets past terrible two's anyway. in any case, good luck!

my boys are 11 months apart - i read 'raising boys' but its not about sibling rivalry.

how do you mean 'development' books?

my 2 r also 11months apart in age so i would also b interested in books like this if u find 1

my main problem is the younger 1 is quite clingy and gets a bit jealous if i hold or try to spend time with the his sister.
she is less bothered but does get annoyed with him if he takes toys etc from her and sometimes tries to bite back

I think by "development" I mean parenting and child development books.

I looked on Amazon as I mentioned. There is one called Siblings Without Rivalry which I've ordered. There are quite a few positive critiques by parents who bought and read it.

Will also check out the library / local bookshops.

I know there are no hard and fast rules, but I was raised like an only child so I didn't have techniques to manage me as a sibling to learn from. Just techniques to try to avoid my being a self centred princess!

7 habits of effective families is good.
supernanny book i also read.

the first few months having 2 (or more) children is hard to adapt too - just try and be as fair as you can and remember it is only a 'stage' and the will get easier.

i leave my 2 to argue - its not as bad as it sounds - but i only step in if they are getting physical or not being fair to each other. i think it is best for them to sort it out themselves.

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