6 yr old having tantrums at school and home - help!

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DD is definitely best described as strong willed and focussed - unfortunately quite often not on what we and/or school want her to do. Recently she has started having pretty full-on strops (shouting, banging door etc), and have just heard that she has had three tantrums at school in the last week. School has suggested that she see their behavioural specialist, which sounds like it might be helpful. Does anyone know if this is what used to be called an educational psychologist? And any ideas from others whose 6 yr olds still have tantrums???

Not an ed psychologist they still exist.

Lots of schools have access to behaviour support service (see below)

"A behaviour support service is part of the local authority (LA) and works in partnership with schools, within a framework of inclusion, to help them promote positive behaviour, and to provide effective support to pupils, parents and schools where behaviour is a concern and may have an effect on achievement."

www.everychildmatters.gov.uk/ete/behaviour/support/

Sounds as though it's prob a good idea if it's availbale.

Hi there I am new to this site but came on it to discuss my 6 year old who we are having nightmares with at school!

Last year he saw a behavioural psychologist who was of absolutely no use and the school did not bother to follow up on his visit. My son's behaviour improved and we have been working it on it alongside the school ever since.

All was well until he returned to school after the school holidays (of which he enjoyed and attended a sports camp), within the first few days of going back he had kicked another child in the privates, refused to do what a teacher told him and was defiant to 3 teachers to the point they didn't know what to do with him!

I was called into school once more and they have asked myself and my son to attend a behavioural course - 6 weeks, one afternoon a week, I have agreed to this but everything we are doing to help our son is on our part and they are excepting no responsibility for their lack of discipline in school.

We have our own things we do with our child at home, time-out, withdrawal of treats etc not attending outings etc and we have told the school this but they are not following up anything we suggest!

Would be interested to find out others experiences of BP's at school and if they have been of any help to your children?

Well, I will let you know if DD ends up seeing the BP. She's a bit different - has been ok at school in general, a couple of times there have been issues but each time before there has been some obvious reason (eg coming down with chickenpox the day after).
This time she came back from Easter hols & her teacher was off sick, not the schools fault at all but they had a different substitute teacher each day for the first 3 days. I know at least one other child who has been refusing to go to school.
DD has been throwing wobblies at home as well though, so it would be good to see if we could get some help.

Thanks gagarin for that link - it sounds like it could be really helpful. Problem solving and conflict resolution skills are definitely what DD needs! I will follow it up with the headteacher - but not for a bit as they have their Estyn inspection next week. They must be having a complete nightmare (stroppy children aside) as they have the inspection due and 2 out of their 4 teachers now off sick for several weeks.