How do you discipline a one year old

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Hi, What can I do when my dd has tantrums whilst I change her nappy, change her clothes, puts her in her pram, takes her out in public!! I feel like I am going to end up resenting her. Will she ever grow out of it or will it get worse. First time mum so need some advice. Thanks

Distract her if you can, stay calm, don't get cross with her. You can't really discipline a 1 yr old. It will get better - or at least, the problems will change! x

What Mrs M said - distraction.

Try your best to ignore it. Just carry on as if it isn't happening. When you are at home, put her in a safe place and then walk away for a moment or two.

Tantrums tend to come in phases and they are a natural part of a child's development. As your DD isn't really in control of this, 'discipline' is not the answer.

Repeat the Mumsnet mantra 'This too shall pass...' several thousand times a day and keep posting! You are in good company here.

Love,
CB xx

Sing - I sang constantly to my DDs at this age. I have a voice like a flushing toilet but it entranced them.

When you're dressing them, do the hokey cokey - put your left arm in...etc.

ALl babies howl some more than others. You just have to get virtual ear plugs and as MrsM said distract her.

A baby is just that and all they care about are their physical needs.

You can get changing mats with a harness to keep crawling/rolling and probably tantruming babies still while you change their nappies. Ebay has them, not sure of their name though.

Not sure about the rest as my lo is 8 months old and not tantrumming yet, got all that to come. All I know is that when my lo gets grumpy when changing clothes etc I turn it into a game of peepo with the vest, or pull out a foot and tickle it and accuse it of being smelly etc.

I did read a book which said you should try things like picking your toddler up and whisking them away/whirling them around and tickling them, or saying "don't laugh!" (but that might not work on babies, perhaps only older toddler, I have no idea) to distract them out of a tantrum.

dd3 is 13 months and she has great hissy fits when i am trying to put her in the buggy.when i am changing her she just crawls away and laughs.when my first child did these things i thought he was being naughty and got stressed.now i know its just what they do at that age i just ignore it,dont speak to her when i am putting her in the buggy,and do the distaction thing that others have suggested when nappy changing etc.

she will grow out of the tantrums when she can talk and say what she needs/wants but will probably start having them again in a few years' time.but you dont need to worry about that yet

When you change her nappy give her something new to hold, something she's not reakky had before. I grab anything I can and start shouting 'look, look' usually he's interested for just long enough to get the nappy on. Though I have learnt to put the nappy on while he's sitting on my lap wriggling around trying to get away.

As for the buggy thing, I think with my dd's I used distraction or we had a big fight, I can't remember-must have blocked the trauma out of my mind .

Keep something interesting for him or a bit of food for when you want her to go into the buggy.
If you're near an Early Learning Centre let her out (if she's crawling) and tire her out a bit then it shouldn't be so bad to get her back in.