Hi all, I’m desperate for some help
My 2 year old daughter (26 months) about 8 weeks ago pood in the bath. I didn’t make a fuss (genuinely didn’t care and surprised it didn’t happen sooner..) I got her out, reassured her it’s ok, just poo, dad scooped it up and cleaned up, and re ran her a new bath. But she was inconsolable. I wrapped her in a towel whilst her dad cleaned and cuddled her, but nothing calmed her down. In hindsight I shouldn’t have re-bathed her, but she’d only just got in when she pood and she was covered in paint….my mistake..
Ever since this point now, we have 2 issues. She’s scared to poo, and goes days, usually going in her sleep as she’s just dropped off. Clearly holding it so much she relieves herself as she falls asleep. (I’m not concerned she’s not going as the poos are massive!) Most nights now we have to sneak in an hour or so into her sleep and clean her up and lots of cream. 2nd issue is she hates not wearing a nappy, for the same reason - she repeatedly asks for a nappy for ‘wee and poo’ at bath time or just a fresh nappy.
I’ve read online about this being a very normal reaction. We openly talk about poo and how it’s normal, to try and encourage her confidence to go. We’ve read books, etc. Her dad and I are just broken with how upset she gets at bedtime (as she knows nappy of for bath) and knowing she’s withholding her poo.
No judgement please, were trying to do our best, and understand we may have caused this with how we handled the poo situ. Looking for advice to try help her understand it’s OK :(