Strategy for dealing with delinquent toddler please!

[FasterPussyCatGrrrl]

DS1 is 22mths, and the last few days has been very difficult. Bitten his brother (almost 6mths) quite nastily, kicking him on the sly, throwing DVDs and toys etc.

We were putting him to sit in the armchair, telling him no, then asking him to say sorry. (He can't say it, but he smoothes the person's head instead) But he now finds this funny, and marches to the chair before we say anything, laughing at us

We are praising the good, but it's hard to just ignore the bad when he's hurting someone or breaking something...

What to do?

my ds1 was awful at this age too. I was told to make a sticker chart. Didn't think it would work but it did within a couple of days. We gave a sticker for any good behaviour with loads of praise. Also when anyone came round we made a big show of the sticker chart and what a good boy he was.
HTH x

i was thinking about stickers actually- as he loves them. it's so hard to not just lose it and smakc him sometimes- i know that sounds awful. When he batters my 6mth old i have to really hold myself back and keep my cool.

My DS1 also bashes his younger brother (DS2 is 10 months).
I also find it v hard to keep my cool but try and remember that they do it to get attention and also out of jealousy.
I have always tried to make sure DS1 has loads of attention since DS2 was born as I think its very hard adjustment to make for the older child, perhaps especially so if the sibling is the same sex and therefore a greater rival for attention.
If its really bad I tell him he will have time out if he does it again and then if he reoffends I stick him on the stairs for 2-3 mins. This does help a bit.
Its hard but it does seem to ease off with time. Also fwiw, its very normal, def not delinquent behaviour!

i know that Pannacotta

Must repeat- this too will pass...

yes it must be hard to watch him hitting the baby - but do keep calm, maybe try remembering that though he seems huge against a baby, he is still one himself; he's one year old! His actions aren't nasty even though they look it; because his understanding of the world isn't the same as, say an adults would be. He can't yet think of other's feelings and how it feels to the baby to be hit.

And of course remember just how bizarre it would be to expect him to learn NOT to hit if you smack him yourself I know you've resisted; keep resisting that urge!

Don't focus on the behaviour, say a big no and explain how to touch gently perhaps, and always divert him straight on to something he can do! If he's just out of control and un-divertable then i'd use a minute in his cot or playpen or something.

oh and meant to add, I have read on here before that when people are dealing with siblings hitting/jealousy etc, it can really help to talk to the older one about how you understand the baby can be annoying, etc. And not to keep saying how they've got big and grown up and are a big brother, etc. They just don't want to be, half the time - don't try to tell them/make them love the baby.

They need to feel understood.

A child who isn't feeling angry cos they're being expected to love this annoying little interloper, is much better able eventually to get a good bond with the baby IMO.