Toddlers and bum-wiping? Nursery responsibility

[miriamsalt]

When did your toddlers learn to wipe their own backsides?
My DS (3.5 years) has just started the preschool bit of his nursery, and comes home almost every day with a pooey bum and pants, and is often pretty sore because of this.
They go to the toilets themselves in the preschool. They can call for help if they need it.
Am I just behind potty training? He can go for a wee himself, and wipe fine.
But I've always wiped his bum for him if he's done a poo.
I didn't realise we were supposed to train them to do that part so soon?
Any advice/thoughts?

Thanks!

Just ask the staff to do it

You can ask them to do it in the early years setting, that includes the reception year (even though they will try to tell you otherwise), so just ask them and be insistent.

On a second note boys don't need to wipe after peeing.

This is interesting. My 3YO does need help at home to wipe, but has never come home covered in poo, so I’ve assumed she’s asking them herself… or she’s conning me at home 🤡

Nursery setting usually do it for them.

Interesting! I wonder!

Up to what age?

The end of early years, so the oldest a child would be is age 5. Although schools don't normal have a policy written up after nursery.

It's the same with nappies, a lot of nurseries and schools lie about needing to phone a parent for changes or not being able to take children in nappies. It's a lie and it's very easy for them to provide provision in the early years setting.

I'd ask the staff to help him, explain he's clearly not managing himself, but also start working with him on doing it at home and encourage him to ask the staff for help. In a busy nursery setting, it will help a lot if he can ask for help, not completely rely on the staff asking him.