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Pregnant with second baby but losing relationship with firstborn

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MoeI · 26/07/2024 11:11

Hi all,

I hope I have put this in the right space. I'm sure this is nothing new but just needed some reassurance as I had a big cry about this yesterday.

I'm currently 16 weeks pregnant with my second baby and have been feeling unwell with morning sickness and lovely colds that my firstborn is bringing home (she's 21 months old). Because of all of that I haven't been able to pay as much attention or play with her very much because just need to lie down a lot of the time. So my husband has been playing and paying attention to her more to keep her off of me, which I really appreciate. She also likes to be picked up and chased around the room, which I also do not have much capacity to do at the moment. But because of all of this she's been wanting me less and wouldn't cuddle me at all or anything that we used to do before was "incapacitated".

I've been trying to ignore the fact that she prefers her dad over me and not make a big deal out of it, but it's been pretty hard and it all came to a head yesterday. I know that this is probably pretty normal behaviour from her, but just wanted to know that it will get better with time now that I'm feeling much better? I'm also worried that when the second baby is born it'll get worse? Anyone have any advice on how to prepare her for the second baby? I've tried telling her mummy has a baby in her tummy, but I think she's too young and doesn't quite understand.

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RappersNeedChapstick · 27/07/2024 21:47

All very normal OP and your relationship with your DD will be strong. It's really good actually that she understands that both Parents can look after her, it will make the transition to 4 so much easier for her.

I found reading Baby Calming before having the second helped as I was able to settle DC2 fairly easily.

This article on juggling a newborn and a toddler might be useful too Flowers

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