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Feeling torn

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HR313 · 09/07/2024 20:24

I have 2 DC (both girls aged 7 & youngest 3 in September). The eldest is placid and easy going. The second is the complete opposite. She shouts and screams, has tantrums when things don’t go her way. I am beginning to think there is something underlying going on. She is constantly making her nose bleed (she picks it until she gets sore) and is a challenge getting her to bed. She doesn’t often go to sleep until 10pm and will drink bottle upon bottle of milk (I’m talking about 2 pints at least!!) if we don’t give in she will scream and then wake my eldest up. We have tried to ditch the bottles but it hasn’t been successful. I go to bed on eggshells wondering when we will get woken up - she wakes any time between 1am-4.30am every night.

She goes to nursery 3 days a week 9-5pm and pre school mid week 9.15-12.15pm. On a Tuesday we go to a forest school for stay and play. From September she will do two mornings at pre school a week but despite how much I am struggling with my youngest I do enjoy attending the Forest school with her but have noticed over the past month how if a child accidentally brushes past her she grabs her arm and makes a face as if she’s just been attacked! When all the children are doing circle time and singing songs - she wanders off in her own world. I am now thinking do I tell the pre school that maybe that extra day is just going to be too much? I’m worried they might be annoyed with me if I say we no longer need her space for a Tuesday morning.

I think selfishly I want to carry on with the Forest group because I’ve got to know some friendly mums and it’s good to have a chat to them. I don’t have many ‘mum’ friends at my eldest’s school - mainly just nod and smile and a bit of small talk. I don’t know what to do. I am currently off sick from work at the moment as I am burnt out, depressed and just completely fed up with my work and home life. Sorry for rambling just no one else to talk to about how I’m feeling and not sure what to do.

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RappersNeedChapstick · 10/07/2024 07:35

So sorry that you're struggling and feeling down @HR313 Flowers

I'd start by doing this simple SLT progress checker. If she's not 3 yet, you'll need to do the 2.5 year one. Let us know if it says ahead of time needs some support.

Have you spoken to the Nursery about your concerns? It is probably worth speaking to her Key Worker and asking if their SENCO can assess her.

I'd ask to see your HV. Fill in the 36 month Ages & Stages and the 36 month Social & Emotional Ages & Stages. You can either mark them yourself or ask your HV to mark them for you. Doing both together will give her a clearer picture of what's going on.

And no, it's not selfish to still want to go to Forest School. You have to have done things you enjoy in your week Flowers

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