3 yr become a nightmare help!

[newmama0]

hi my 3 year old whos at nursery am and starts full time school in sept has become a nightmare! when i had his little bro in oct he loved him but now never leaves the baby alone, he wakes him up trys to hurt him and just bugs him all the time, his behaviour has got worse (he has never been a angel!) everything is a battle, he wont do as he is told and if you say no screams, hits, and shouts to get his own way. doesnt matter where we are school, asda etc. ive tried timeout, reward charts, taking toys away. can anyone offer any advice cos its really geeting me down

oh sweetheart no advice sorry but i am sure someone will be along soonxxx

Has your new ds started crawling recently by any chance?

THis is not advice exactly, just an idea... How much one-on-one attention do you give your 3-year-old? I've noticed with my ds1 (2.10), his behaviour improves a lot if I manage to spend some "quality" time with him during the day when his little brother (8 months) is asleep. Just me and him, doing puzzles, reading books etc - I know it's difficult to find the time, but IMHO it really does make a difference. Good luck!

Hi, I feel your pain!!! I have a three year old and a fifteen month old, and they have BOTH ramped up the tantrums lately! AAAHHHHHH! The things that I have found which helped a lot is putting him in time out to calm down (the older one) if he gets really ridiculous, pushes or tries to hurt his brother or just gets into a cycle of screaming. This has definitely helped, give a couple of warnings then out he goes, it helps me to calm down too, otherwise i find myself getting drawn into it a bit. Also totally agree with desperatelyseekingsleep - one to one really helps, or just fun activities with both if you cant manage it with just him, going to the park is a winner for mine as hes very active and physical, so loads of praise for climbing and all that. the other thing is that (and so much easier said than done) it really helps if you can stay calm yourself or just walk away and ignore minor things - sometimes i avert a really bad tantrum by just walking away as it starts and find something VERRRY interesting to do in the next room, i even do this in shops and it seems to work, you just have to harden yourself to dispproving looks from old ladies!
Anyway, know youre not alone, its really hard, but they will get better as they get older (then the little ones can take over ! ) x

no baby not crawing just sits in chair, walker etc n thinks big bro is great laughs and smiles at him, i only really spend 1 on 1 time wiv ds1 on a nite doin bedtime, but im gonna try n spend more quality time wiv him. cos i spoke to his nursery teacher this morn n she said he is fine n never stops talking about his bro! she thinks he is just going through a stage. i hope so!!!! n thanks for the advice

Hi I have the same problem I have a six week old and a 3.5 year old, he throws real nasty tantrums and bites kicks and hits out - usually at nothing, I now put him in time out and we stop what we are doing until he can show he has calmed down. I am trying to find a class to take him too on a Sat morn if anyone has any suggestions !! I also agree with the lady who said putting them in time out calms you down too I have got drawn into too many arguments with him - and as I understand this is when they start learning your behaviour and copying you !!