For context/ she does have ocd and that could be the cause which makes me confused on how to handle it or punishing her and etc: it could be the repetitive intrusive thoughts.. I’m not sure. she said she cannot control them, can’t help it and doesn’t want it but it’s just there.
its gonna be a long post. I’m sorry.
shes 6 almost 7 and her entire life she’s been a mommy’s girl: she’s never gotten into trouble really and would never make me tell her twice: honestly she was the most behaved and easy child. Her symptoms were manageable: and she was so loving to me: she didn’t want to be away from me and adored me:
about 5 days ago she started to repeat mean stuff about the dog:
I thought she was a little jealous that the dog was letting me pick it up and not her and I am sure jealously is an issue: she’s told the dog she’s adopted and I’m not her mother and stuff like that
but then it started being her telling me awful stuff about the dog like she hates the dog snd wants to let go of the leash so it goes away forever just non stop: I put my headphones on once I had said “ I told you I don’t wanna hear anything unkind anymore.” And she got upset mad told me I didn’t understand that it wouldn’t go out of her head unless she told me.
well the next day she told me she did not love me and I was ugly.
then every day since it’s been her telling me that many times a day. She can’t help herself. She sat crying in time out all day: it’s at her detriment to say these things and she can’t stop:
i told her she had really hurt my feelings and she needed to think about that and apologise.
she told me she did and she wasn’t sure if she was sorry - she doesn’t know if she loves me she isn’t sure how to know on either but she knows she wants me to live forever and always be with her. I ask if she felt bad about hurting my feelings since I’m her best friend and she cares about me and she said she didn’t know.
later she did it again. “You are ugly: you’re ugly though. It’s true” (I used to do modeling and am not ugly though it hurts me to hear my child say this badly I don’t care if strangers do- it’s just my child - it cuts me to my core)
then she got put in time out with nothing and everything t taken away and she got out and 30 minutes later called me an ugly bitch which got her in serious trouble: I ask if she knows what that means and she said no but her dad told her that means a girl dog: I told her it was not kind to say and hurt my feelings badly and that I love her and always will but am so disappointed and want her to stop. I ask how she would feel and she just says she doesn’t know.
I don’t know if she’s acting out try and make me mad for a response or if this is her OCD. It’s very much not like her: she’s got appointments booked but I don’t know how to handle this and don’t want to make it worse.
i want it to stop. I did ask her and she said she doesn’t know what she wanted:
the last four days have been her upset in time out and me sobbing secretly to myself in the bathroom: it’s like we are playing and she looks at me and says the worst stuff. She doesn’t seem to care that I’m upset.
I do NOT call her names or act like that and she’s not around anyone new. she gets tons of attention all day I’m with her and even go to bed with her. She’s got me 24/7
she gets love and understanding from me and before she started this I was literally her rock and favorite person:
even playing dolls which she wanted to do she couldn’t help but say it and then I got up and stopped playing as a result and she got upset and ask for another chance: she blew that one too. She’s had a stable dream life: she isn’t being bullied.
I don’t know it punishing and getting mad is making it worse as she knows how to upset me and may want that control.
I don’t know if this is typical or if it’s OCD and I just need help dealing with it
i almost feel like someone took my child and swapped her with a mean clone and I am
so afraid that it’ll be this way going forward.
is seven some age for being this way?
I don’t allow her to talk to me that way so she lost the tv, any devices, her toys and was in bed in silence crying all day:.: I feel awful for her but I just don’t know how to make this stop without feeding into it. I almost feel she just wants to make me mad. “I don’t love you! You’re ugly!” Then I ask her why and what changed and she says she doesn’t know how to tell if she loves me or how to love:
she doesn’t know if she feels sorry tor being mean or if she wants to be mean or not.
anyone else gone through that or have ideas on what this is? It’s not like her: I can’t think of anything new that could cause it either.
I am desperate to fix this. I am so tired of feeling sad or seeing her sad and fighting with her. We never ever did before a few days ago… :(