i could kick myself, i still have an overhanging awful attitude towards other people and my boy..

[donbean]

when in the company of other people.

at nearly 5 years old it occurred to me because its half term and im with him for whole days.
which i also realised that ive missed terriby. not done since before september when he started school.

so from when he was tiny, i have struggled with his wild behaviour.
i know people with strong views about child rearing and i know that they dislike my son.

have always kept him away from these people but ventured out today to meet one of them and i was so stressed with it all....their disaproval and him just bieng his little self, was horrible.

not doing it ever again either.

why is it so hard to be pulled in so amny directions?
why do i even care what the fuck they think?
why do people have to make it so obvious that they dont like a child?
and why do they make it obvious that they are thinking "if that were mine, id have battered the little bastard to death....."

sounds like your having a shit time

I dont know your story but people can be real fuckers sometimes

xxx

feel for you, had similar issue with staff as ds's nursery.

It's hard bridging the gap between teaching them conforming behaviour as they get to school age while still sheltering htem enougb to allow them to be their own person, however singular. I hate how other peole make me feel sometimes in public, but I think much of it (i hope!) is in my head and some of what they feel may be sympathy for the parent, not condemnation but they just don't kmnow what to say. I was still fuming from our incident a few hours ago though!

tell me about your incident.

no its not in my head, it realy is what they think as they have felt so strongly about it that they have told me.
they can all fuck off

go with yr instinct then and try not to pay attention. I know it's hard.

I'm speaking from a different perspective hto as it seems my ds has a kind of learning difficulty - still not clarified for sure but around dyspraxia/adhd so I'm learning to have to put up with this a lot and at other parents seemingly not understanding where we're coming from as no-one really knows yet.
I do sympathise and i think it gets worse as they move out of our hands into the school-age world.

donbean, dont let others opinions hurt you, condersending gits, you do whats best for your boy and thats good enough for me, plus its very easy to judge, some people look down on others to make themselves feel better, its not about you, its them.

Fuck em, anyway who wants a perfect kid, bloody boring, your boys got attitude, will probably take him far.

What sort of thing does he do that they disapprove of? how mean to make it so obvious they dislike a child of 5! I think you're right not to bother again BTW - if they can't be supportive to you and him, they are not real friends.

Omg steer well clear, why would somebody make it obvious that they dislike your son? People like this would not be worth knowing imo. He may be wild but who gives a crap at 5, kids are
all different, tell them to fuck right off, if they are making it obvious they don't like him they are twats.

But Donbean what does he do that they don't like?

From another perspective, my dd is 5 and gets hit and hassled by a 'wild' boy in her class, as do lots of the other girls in that year. He is a spoilt little so and so, and I must admit I steer clear of the mum cos I don't want to say anything that I shouldn't. But then wonder if I should.

Now reading your post I'm glad I haven't said anything. Its so tricky this whole area.