16 months development

[Vittoria123]

Hello lovelies sorry for the long post
hope you are all doing well . I am a FT mum to a wonderful DD of 16 months . The reason why I am seeking advice is that I am slightly worried about her milestones . I will try and make it as clear as possible. She started walking properly at 12 months and she currently has 25 understandable words under her belt . She is very good at imitating and following my point when I say “ look at something “ . She brings toys to me all the time and does pretend play ( feed Dollies , pretend cleaning , phone to her ear , stir the spoon in the cup etc ) . She always responds to her name . She is a very good sleeper and very affectionate. From a social point of view she is a bit shy but runs after other kids when she seems them , she smiles at strangers etc . She is a very good sleeper and napper . Now to the point of this post . She is 16 months but not a good pointer . She points at her body parts , points at dogs , things in books , but DOESN’T point to request . She reaches with both hands when she wants something or comes towards me . I am aware it might mean ASD but I don’t know what to do about it or how to help her . Both GP and health visitor are not concerned and advised me to wait until 20 months . Any advice on when your kids have started pointing or any similar experiences ?

things that worries me .

1. she responds to her name when not engulfed in other things like running , or watching tv . Is that normal ? 2 ) not a great pointer 3 ) bit of toe walking
2. sometimes she stares at me and then look away .

many many thanks to all who takes the time to reply

Sounds like she’s doing brilliantly! I also have a 16 month old.
He points at stuff in books but doesn’t really point at other things and doesn’t follow our finger if we point at something. He doesn’t really say any words apart from Da to mean star, duck, car etc.
When I spoke to our HV she wasn’t concerned. If both you HV and GP aren’t worried then I think you don’t need to worry. It’s good to keep track of everything, so do keep an eye on these things, but try not to really worry. Also remember that kids develop at all different times. I saw a post on social media earlier of someone’s 10 month old pointing at a dog. My son was walking at 9 months. I try not to worry unless it gets a fair bit past the average milestone age. Just got to give them a bit more time to develop and things

She sounds advanced.