As the title says - my 9 year old daughter still wets the bed every night, fairly often so much that it soaks the pull up and means we need to change the bed. She doesn’t have accidents in the day and isn’t constipated.
We tried getting her out of pull ups for a while when she was about 4 (at her request as her little brother had stopped wearing nappies at night) but never got more than a few days and then she wanted to stop.
She’s also autistic, with a demand avoidant profile, meaning that she finds demands/pressure very stressful. She says that she doesn’t think she’s ready to come out of them and is fine to keep wearing them. We haven’t ever seen a specialist because she’s got a certain amount of health anxiety and I didn’t want to make a big deal about it.
I don’t want to put unnecessary pressure on her but it is becoming a bit of a pain (changing sheets 3+times a week etc despite pull ups)… And also am aware that the official advice is that she should be seen by this age to check for underlying health issues. So my question is - should I get her seen, and run the risk of making her more self conscious and making the problem worse, in case there is a medical issue of some kind? Or is that really unlikely (this is my feeling) and therefore should I just wait until she says she wants to sort it out? Or will that never happen bc of her autism/resistance to change!? This has become a bit of a stream of consciousness but any advice would be appreciated.