27month old constantly getting out of bed past bedtime

[julantal]

i have spent the last two hours trying to put my 27 mo old to bed. She goes to her room fine at "night night time" we read books and she even gets into bed easily- we say our good nights and turn off the lights and for as long as i can recall she would fall asleep in about 20 min without getting out of ehr big girl bed (which she has been in since 24 mo- no probs transitioning from crib). But for the last three nights she has decided to get out of the bed within about 20 min of good nights and either turns the light on or will come to the door and peek out. I have done the "nanny" routine of leading the child back to bed with no eye contact or conversation and this has not yet worked in fact i think i hear her now... also note another factor on top of all of this i just had a baby 10 days ago. What the hell is going on? What should i do get stern, take light out of room? help help help ps the infant is a really fussy infant and eats every three hours or just fusses in between the three hours.

Could it be that your dd realises that your baby is awake in the night (maybe its cries are waking her) and doesn't want to 'miss out' on whatever adventures are taking place? It would be unusual for a new baby not to cause some kind of adjustment in dd's behaviour so perhaps this is it? I'd be tempted to show/tell dd that the baby has woken up because it wants to feed but that the baby will go straight back to sleep afterwards - also that big girls don't need to feed at night...then when the demo is over, put her straight to bed and continue with the 'nanny' approach until she either gets the message, gets bored or falls asleep. Good luck.

ds did this we took the door handle off he doesnt bother to even try now!! i know its a bit mean but it works

try rewarding her for staying in bed do you think she is old enough to understand star charts.

we use a fan in her room- she cant hear anythigplus this all happened immed after she went to bed- the baby wasnt even awake. i think she thinks this is a game all told it took her two and half hrs to go to sleep and then to top it iff she was up at 7am- way early. this sucks

we put a gate on dss room, gave him a few books and put a timer on a lamp, deal was when his lamp went off it was bedtime (about 30 mins after bedtime). our reasoning was theres no way to force a toddler to go to sleep. its worked brilliantly for us, ds has his own wind down time and settles himself happily when the light goes off. took a week or so for him to get it. worth a try??

Agree with Pheebe. My DD has been in a big bed since 10 months (on sleep clinic recommendation) and stayed in the bed once we had put her in it. Then she realised she could get out of the bed so we put a stairgate on and gave her a pile of books so that she could fall asleep when she is sleepy as I can do alot of things but I can't make her sleepy. She is now always asleep by 8pm, although she still comes to the stairgate occasionally but I just start going up the stairs and she says "Oh Oh trouble" and flies back into bed lol.

For what it's worth this is what I did. My son went into his big boy bed aged 2.2. The first couple of nights was exactly the same as putting him in his cot, until he realised he could get out of the bed lol
Basically I just did the supernanny thing of putting him back into bed as soon as he got out, no eye contact etc. The first three months it took around sixty times of putting him back in bed, before he stayed in it and went to sleep. I left the door slightly ajar but sat at the top of the stairs. The number of times it took to put him back in bed got less and less and after six months I had cracked it, he didn't get out at all. It has to be said that this method does take time at first, a good hour in the first few months, but it worked for me.
Good luck!

Had similar experience with dd1. ONly thing that works with supernanny 'rapid return' but beware of TV editing. It doesn't happen (IME) in anything like the timescales i.e. a few days that they suggest. It took at least 2 months of concerted effort and finally it worked.

In hindsight, I was in too much of a rush to get dd1 into a bed (because I needed the cot). Have you thought about using going back to a cot (unless she's leaping out) or travel cot because presumably with 10 day old baby you may not have energy/time to do rapid return businesss. After the massive drama with dd1 I have learnt not to be in so much of rush to make transition to big bed, DD2 will be in her cot until head and feet are touching both ends !

HOw is this affecting her naps (if she still has them).

We also fitted stairgate to room. Which did at least contain her until learnt to get over in it in a krypton factor style army roll. Also agree with comment that you can take toddler to bed but can't make her sleep. IF you fit stairgate, perhaps just leave her with small nightlight and a few books and leave the whole rapid return approach to when you are feeling a bit more back on your feet after baby 2.