Help me please

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My 3 year old is really nasty to his dad. He will be really nice and happy all day with me or in the car then once we get home or his dad comes home he just turns mean towards him, tells him to go away doesn't cuddle him or sit with him. It's really starting to get my and he keeps saying it makes him not want to be at home, he also says the reason he's like this, is because i let him do what he wants and have what he wants, which I don't think I do. I'm currently a student nurse and we haven't had many sessions in uni or placement so I've been at home with my little one 24/7 other then when he's at nursery 2 days a week. My partner works a lot to make up for the fact I'm a full time student, could this be the reason why? Because I'm with him all the time and my partner isn't?
Please any advice I will take, this is getting my really upset then with my partner saying he doesn't want to be at home :(

Does your partner have any time to spend any 1-1 time with him? My 3 year old sometimes has mummy preference but I try where possible to make sure my DH gets some time when it's just the two of them which seems to really help

I think your DH needs to spend some one-to-one time with your son doing something really fun. You need to show your son. He is also a fan parent. I’m not just the one that moans and tells them off all the time which is what it sounds like it does.
Controversial question, but does your partner smack your son or you shouting as a way to discipline him?

Or use shouting not you

Yes I agree he needs to spend time with him, even more now we've got another one on the way, he will probably be spending time and doing more things with his dad while I recover with the baby

He doesn't smack him no, but probably does shout when telling him off

Yes I think maybe you need to go out for an hour and leave them doing something fun.
My DD didn’t want dad when I was around, but when they were 1:1 they had fun

I wouldn't wait till baby is here. I think you need to try and improve things before new baby arrive as that's going to bring a whole different lot of feelings for your DC. Try and facilitate leaving them to it this weekend for a few hours. One to one time for them both is going to be key

Alternatively send them out first the morning at the weekend. There's no reason why he can't take DS somewhere like the Library, Park or Swimming for a couple of hours on his day off.

Your DP really needs to stop raising his voice too.