Almost 3 year old girl acting like a demon with me and not her dad

[LostMummaOlivia]

So our little angle baby is turning 3 at the beginning of July and up until a month or so ago she has been wonderful with the occasional meltdown, which is to be expected. However she has now taken to pretty much being in a constant state of screaming, shouting, slapping,throwing,kicking and now biting with me.
I am honestly losing the will to live with it all. I went away for the weekend and my OH said she was almost a perfect angel but the MINUTE I have got home its like she is possessed! I am trying to do the gentle parenting thing but when you have been screamed at and hit constantly for ten minutes I snap and end up shouting. Which seems to be the only thing that stops her losing her mind. I don't want this to be the only thing that works but alllll of the other gentle parenting techniques just don't seem to be working.
I need some help from any mums that have been through this because I'm really really really struggling. I have a 1 year old little boy too and she will push and hit and kick him too and take his toys off him.

You need to nip this now…
Have you tried the naughty step/time out…. But actual doing it properly?!
With the warning, then the placing on the spot, and telling them why, then keep returning them to the spot (without any further communication at all!) keep returning them till they’ve done their time (3 minutes for your DD) then explain calmly that there is no hitting etc!
I only had to do this a handful of time when my DD played up at that age.

watch super nanny and learn the method though, doing it wrong causes more issues

Amazing - thank you so much for this we will try this out! It's so stressful as we have to start potty training properly this weekend too as she starts school soon!

I've got a 3 year old and she's also going through a really challenging phase of screaming and tantrums. She's at nursery and she spends the mornings and evenings on nursery days screaming a lot. Stick with the gentle parenting. If you feel overwhelmed, it's fine to step away from her for your own sanity, as long as she's safe.

I would tackle one issue at a time if it were me.
don't overwhelm yourselves / hee

With both our DC I got far, far more of the nastiness than DH ever did. I think that’s because I was with them more and was their primary attachment figure. DH is an active parent but I worked p/t before they started school so was with them more.

Also, a bit of all of the below:

• terrible twos/threenagers
• jealousy of younger sibling
• ”punishing” you for going away, feeling angry or upset, missing you. (Subconsciously).