Hi All,
I'm at my wits end here and would really appreciate any tips, suggestions or insights into improving things with my 4 year old Daughter, 5 in July.
We are stuck in a complete rut and can't seem to get out. I'll give an example of a standard day.We awake at 6am to my DD whinging that she wants to go down stairs and watch TV if we don't get up immediately she will begin to scream, I'm talking top of here lungs ear splitting screaming. We go down stairs and she'll sit in front of bluey demanding that she wants breakfast but whinging that she doesn't know what she wants eventually ending up in the same murderous screaming no matter what option is in front of her, eventually she'll likely settle on the first thing suggested. Once finished she will demand 'something yummy' the answer is no, same ear splitting screams. Then it's time to get ready for school, screaming that she doesn't want trousers, doesn't want skirt, doesn't want dress etc. She will not no matter what we try putsocks or shoes on. She leaves the house screaming g her head off all of us exhausted before the day has even started and she is barefoot or in cross. She gets to school and the teachers manage to get shoes on her some how. We are told she behaves nicely at school, is engaged and plays well with other children.
We pick her up, 'I want something yummy!' More screeching, we get home and it's the same over dinner, won't sit at the table same at Bath time and eventually she goes to sleep. She sleeps well, wakes up and repeats the same thing, every...single...day!
On the whole we are patient we've tried ignoring it, we've tried acknowledging her feelings (she just screams louder as we talk) we've tried putting her in her room (will not calmdown and then gets herself in a worse state) we've tried naughty step, we've tried cuddling it out (if she allows it which is rare) and of cause there are times where we have lost it and the whole house has raised voices. If super nanny is reading this It would be great if you could come and help us!