DS imaginary friend getting beyond a joke....

[wangle99]

A while ago we bought DS a toy petrol tanker from a car boot sale who he nicknamed 'Torch' (god knows why but there you go lol).

Torch is now his imaginary friend and tells him what he can and can't do ie 'Torch says I'm only allowed chocolate for tea' 'Torch says I mustn't go to bed yet'. 'Torch says we are both full up now'.

You get the gist. 'Torch' does stuff with him all day long apparently and he is forever saying 'Torch and I did that' etc etc.

Trouble is when I say that it doesn't matter what Torch says we have HYSTERIA in a big way. Torch is God I think lol

Any ideas how to deal with this???

Argh we just had 'Come and eat your breakfast and you can go and play in the snow'

DS 'No, Torch wants me to have no energy'.

DS is 4.5 btw

LOL . Sorry. No advice I am afraid, but just think thi is well funny. I suppose you don't

Hi Oblomov I do think its funny as well, DS imagination is fantastic and he is sooo craft just wondering if anyone had any ideas how to tell him Torch is NOT god and he does still have to eat/get dressed/get in the car/go to nursery lol

Maybe you need some ground rules for torch aswell.
" I think Torch needs to learn that abc is not acceptable"

Hmmm ... I would probably invent my own imaginary friend ... 'Boof says I have to stay on MN all morning' etc

" Now listen here Torch, No dinner, no tv, thats the rulkes"
Maybe you need to go the full monty and stop addressing ds, and go for the jugular on Torch himself .
I am LOL from this. Cheeers Wangle.

My little lad, at about the same age, had two imaginary friends - John and Terry Rabbit - stop laughing now!!!

They lived in our attic - which scared the poo out of the rest of us.

John and Terry did all kinds of bad stuff. They wrote my eldest sons name (he was 16 at the time!) on new wallpaper. Funnily enough my eldest lad denied it and youngest said it was John and Terry who did it!!

Can I just add that my son (J & T's mate) is now 10 and is very bright and reasonably sane and normal

DS's imaginary friend Von got eaten by a giant pig

tell him it might happen to Torch too if he doesn't toe the line

I think Torch needs to become less influential....I would suggest instituting a reward system for good behaviour that does not include Torch in any way.

Pasta jar, Star chart or similar - whatever you think will work for you.

I would respond to the "no energy" comment with "Oh dear - that means you won't be able to do anything today - you had better just go and rest in your room".

He will outgrow it, but you need to take back control. If he gets hysterical, put him in his room where there isn't an audience.

Distraction, rewarding good behaviour and ignoring difficult behaviour, including Torch, is the way to go. good Luck.

can accidentally get broken or lost - traumatic in the short term maybe but possibly worth it ! Life dominated by an opinionated petrol tanker is not an option I would choose

calm down throckenholt
Surely we are not at that stage of severity , yet
Or maybe we are

I would be ! mind you I have a low tolerance for that sort of thing - I think I would definitely have to take a contract out on Torch

" who you gonna call"
Pest elimination ?
Throckenholt - do -de-do-de

Lol you have made me laugh, thanks for great suggestions.

Throckenholt - its not so much about the toy anymore, Torch is a thing in its own right!!!! (a not-real thing at that!).

in that case you are gonna have to learn to love him (rather you than me though - thankfully mine seem to be past that stage).

I used to have a IF called 'Naughty Margaret'. It was never my fault, it was hers.

My sister had an imaginary friend called Dinny who (get this) lived in the sewers! Similarly to your DS, Dinny would decide for DSis what she would eat for dinner, and when she would go to bed...she did grow out of it eventually

Even worse, my Mum had an imaginary horse - my grandpa told us how embarrassing it was walking down the road with her galloping alongside and dismounting at every road crossing!

My DS1 (now 15) used to have an imaginary friend called "Dinosaur Lat Lat" who would follow us bloody everywhere and make DS SO SLOW that every trip anywhere on foot twice or 3 times as long!

I wanted to strangle the little git, if I could have got my hands round his slippery, invisble neck!

DD (9) still has an imaginary friend whose been around for years although I only recently (couple of years ago) found out the following details other than her name. She is called Kaikook and she is (apparently) DD's sister - the baby I miscarried 18 months before DD was born. We have to celebrate her "birthday" and everything!! (Which is the day she was due had she not been miscarried.. pointed out to DD that she was "born" so can't have a birthday.. DD says she was "born in heaven").

Not sure what to make of that one to be honest.. is an entirely different sort of imaginary friend to Dinosaur Lat-Lat!

(wasn't born sorry!)

CRHorse - WoW about Kaikook!! Im sat here like that My DS4 (previously mentioned on here - RE: John and Terry Rabbit) used to tell us long stories about 'when he used to live here before!' He, at the time, didn't know much about his 2 older brothers who had died. Every story he would tell us would involve the following line:- 'I was just one of the waiting babies in heaven and one day these two older boys walked round and picked me out to come and live here - and they looked just like me!'

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