When does the moaning / whining stop?

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I have a dd 5 and i dont remember this - my ds is 17 months old - he constantly whines and moans for attention - i do play then move on to do something else and hes there pulling at my leg and crying. Cry if i try to stop him throwing everything he can down the stairs or remove something from him he shuldnt be playing with etc or generally tell him no... Any tips to banish the whining would be gratefuly received as even car journeys are a nightmare with him crying or trying to escape from his seat.

Hes sounding hoarse tonight in his crys and took an hr to settle in his cot to sleep tonight (i left him to it in the end) so i suspect today was worse as he is poss ailing something. It is end of term and im off with the 2 of them now and im seeing a tricky/ trying two weeks ahead as i just end up snapping at my dd/ dh.

Off to bed now

I was kinda hoping super nanny was online?

Does he communicate why he is whining? Is it jsut the seperation anxiety?

He cant talk yet so no - just mwaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrr type of noises (you know the one!!). Like pick me up (again).

Didnt know whether best to smother him with attention or to ignore or if its just a stage....

He goes to a nursery 3 days and isnt at all bothered when i leave him and is apparently no bother

Try baby sign language. There is a set of signs on the cbeebies site under something special. It's great when they can tell you what they want before they can talk! (Takes a lot of repetition, but DS3 (23 weeks) is signing for milk and dirty nappy now. (we started when he was very young)

well its worth a try...

another thing that has worked for us in the past (if you can cope) is "background music", like classical for meals and quiet times, and nursery music for play times. If you can manage to get him to dance or sing for short periods while you get things done in another room, he may feel better abotu you leaving him.
Also, when hes crying, instead of feeling fed up and trapped (I know what thats like!), repeat to yourself that what he is trying to say is "Mummy you are so special to me, I want to be near you".

lol - i will try that mantra!!! He hasnt moaned this am much but i am trying the wholw positive parenting overload thing. Off to play.....