Sleep assistance needed!

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Wondering if anyone can share their experience/advice.

im a first time mum with a 10 month old. She has never been a great sleeper, rarely sleeping through the night but the last 2 months seem to be horrendous. It hasn’t helped that she has been ill since starting nursery and we have had to on occasion give in and comfort her in our bed to stop her coughing through the night.

I have been looking into sleep training but my partner is against the idea at her age.

has anyone had success with a different method other than cry it out and Ferber?

she has been in a bedtime routine since around 8 weeks old. I have also tried changing her bedtime window and adding an extra nap in which seemed to work for about a week but now back in the same boat.

any advice would be great. thanks

We sleep trained at 6.5 months. My HV said it gets harder to do as they get older. It took us 12 minutes on night one, and she slept for 7 hours. It took 7 minutes on night 2, and she slept for 9 hours. By night 5 she went straight to sleep and slept through 11 or so hours 95% of the time since. we are currently having a hiccup due to 18 month sleep regression but hopefully will be back on track soon. Sleep training takes many forms - once you decide you are able to let your baby cry (a tough decision, I felt awful even making it) then the second question is, for how long? we chose a method where we went back to calm her after 2 minutes, then 2.5, and so on up until 5 minutes and then we would go back every 5 minutes, EXCEPT she has never stayed awake long enough for us to have to set the timer for 5 minutes! We keep the lights off when we go in to calm her, she calmed straight away when we went in, we just told her its ok, sleep time now, and rubbed her belly and left within 30 seconds. We didn't pick her up - some people do. Sleep training does not always involves hours of screaming - but if it does you will have to decide whether you can see it through - I don't know how long I would have made it if our baby had not responded so well. She had been waking every 25 - 45 minutes before sleep training! If your partner is against it, perhaps they can agree to deal with all night wakes from now on.......!

How many naps is she on? 2 is typical for her age.