Normal for 14mo to frequently shake with frustration/rage/impatience?

[Jacksmybaby]

He has started doing this in the last week or so. It's not only when he's worked himself up into a real paddy; he starts shaking, going red in the face and clenched jaw, the very instant he decides he wants something he can't reach / wants attention, etc. It almost looks like he's having a fit. Sometimes he shakes with excitement too, but it's much more often with frustration. I know it's normal for toddlers this age to get very easily frustrated but is it normal to take it to this extreme?

My ds did this when he was little.

Now as a teenager he is so laid back he is alomst horizontal...............

Yes sounds like my son - he has jsut started throwing himself around the place - eg I take him out of the kitchen where he had jsut gone and try to sit him on the flor in the lounge, queue him refusing to sit - so I just lay him down and ignore him - blooming too young at 14 months to be having tantrums / paddy's!!!!

Normal.

Oh yes, dd does this (same age), suddenly decides she HAS to have something this instant. Veins popping, red face and shouting really loudly.

my ds did exactly the same thing at that age, his teeth gritted, his arms all stiff, fingers splayed, shaking with rage. It looked quite funny really!

He is 5 now and very chilled (well, as chilled as 5 year olds get!)

dd (16 months) just the same!!!

Oh good, glad others are in the same boat with high maintenance children and it's not just me!

DD used to do this. We called it her "incredible hulk" look. DH did worry about it a bit, but a few months later and she's grown out of it already. She's found other ways to let us know her mind though, not least learning the phrase "Mummy, do it!".

MrsTM, yes I think the fact that he's not talking yet is contributing to his frustration, he can't let us know what he wants!

dd bites her fists!

Oh yes, I recognise it well in my ds 18 months. He has been like this for months now. We co-sleep and he does this in his sleep as well, when he is not allowed to nurse. I can feel him vibrating with rage next to me.

Other things he does when thwarted, includes throwing himself backwards, thrashing about on the floor, throwing the nearest thing, going to the coffee table and sweeping everything off, and of course, screaming at the top of his voice.

I can tell he will go far

Oh yes normal- We live with the incredible hulk and I expect to see his clothes ripping off in his rage.

He screams when you say no and then quickly scans the room in a terminator style to find out what he can launch across the room, nothing is safe all toys,books get thrown untill he eventually calms down and then wanders over as if nothing ever happened

Heh heh yes. This reminds me of when DD was learning to crawl at about 10 months. She would beat the ground with her fists, bounce up and down on her tummy and growl with rage.

Definitely normal!! DD2 is nearly 14 months and all her life has been the most placid little bundle of smiling, happy, cute fluffiness - hardly a cry ever to be heard to pass her lips, but now suddenly, it's terrifying!! For example, this afternoon in the park she kept on and on running over to the gate out to the road and, of course, I kept stopping her. Eventually I picked her up and started walking away from the gate and so she went into full on red faced, rigid, back arching screaming - practically frothing at the mout with fury - so I nearly dropped her, and when I put her down again she went on all fours and actually started banging her head on the ground in fury poor poppet! What a muddy head! Luckily, having seen a similar transformation happen to DD1 (who thankfully at 3 is now well past the tantrum stage) this time round I'm pretty calm about it - just another 18 months or so and she'll be over it, hey ho.....