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Original poster

who has a 1-2 year old who routinely goes to bed at 8:30-9pm??

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nappyaddict · 05/04/2008 17:37

what are your reasons for this? is it because either you or dp work til late and you wouldn't get to see them otherwise, is that just when they go to bed and there's no reason for it or do you have any other reasons?

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TrinityTheProgressingRhino · 05/04/2008 21:28

you talking to me cod?

TrinityTheProgressingRhino · 05/04/2008 21:31

I'm not being feisty btw
was just wondering

DJCod · 06/04/2008 08:13

yy i think so
i sounded fiesty though didn ti
was ill

Nemoandthefishes · 06/04/2008 08:22

when there was only ds he used to go to bed at 8.45pm because dh would be out at work from 7.30am until 8.15/30pm so the only way he could spend time with ds was for him to stay up later.
However then we had dd1 quickly followed by dd2 and I find that if all 3 are not in bed by 8pm I go slightly loopy..
Luckily dh is now usually home by 7pm and on some days by 3pm!!

TrinityTheProgressingRhino · 06/04/2008 08:22

to be honest cod
there is truth in wht oyur saying
but I have an inability to just let her scream, she is still breastfed and my dh getting hr into a routine isn't an option at the mo because he isn't home from work in time to do it.

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nappyaddict · 06/04/2008 08:57

Mnersanon - my ds goes to bed at this time and i was just wondering if it was a bit too late that's all cos most of my friend's children seem to be in bed much earlier.

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sarah293 · 06/04/2008 08:59

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ibiza1 · 06/04/2008 09:06

hi i have 2 girls one 4 and other 2 they both go to bed at latest 8/8.30 . i find if the 2 yr does without her nap then its better and also if u could get them out for a long walk etc they r tired out.

TrinityTheProgressingRhino · 06/04/2008 09:08

riven, you can change that though
now he is four you just put him to bed a loittle earlier eah night, his body will adjust
but hurry up and do it before he can tell the time

sarah293 · 06/04/2008 09:11

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TrinityTheProgressingRhino · 06/04/2008 09:12

oh riven, sorry I'll shut up

melpomene · 06/04/2008 09:14

DD2 (nearly 3) often isn't asleep until 9pm. We all have dinner together at 6.30, and then by the time we've tidied up toys, had bath and bedtime story it's nearly 8pm. She then has a bf and I put her into bed but she chats away and takes a long time to get to sleep.

annoyingdevil · 06/04/2008 09:20

Mine go at that time. DD (almost 3) still has an afternoon nap (bliss) and wakes after 8am every morning. I put them to bed a bit later for my sanity (I realise this will have to change when DD starts school)

TrinityTheProgressingRhino · 06/04/2008 09:22

wow, I'm on my own then with my older two
dd1 is 8 and dd2 is 3 in a few days
there bedtime is 7pm

I'm trying to get gecko to something nearer that instead of 9.30ish

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nappyaddict · 06/04/2008 09:44

annoyingdevil - have they always gone to bed 8:30-9 or did they have an earlier bed time when they were younger? i too put ds to bed that time so i don't have to get up early but i have been told this is selfish. i say how is it selfish for ds to wake up to a smiling, happy, awake mummy who plays with him as opposed to a grumpy, tired one who sits him front of the tv for a couple of hours so i can doze on the sofa (which is what happens on the nights after i work cos mum has him and insists on putting him to bed at 6pm or something ridiculous)

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TrinityTheProgressingRhino · 06/04/2008 09:53

thats true riven but what happens when you have to get up for school
we have to be up by 7am to leave the house at 8.30

It shouldn't take that long to get ready but with 2 under3 its crazy lol

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nappyaddict · 06/04/2008 09:57

he gets up at 8am so shouldn't create a huge difference when he starts school although i am thinking about home-schooling.

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nappyaddict · 06/04/2008 09:57

oh sorry just realised you weren't even talking to me!

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SlightlyMadSweet · 06/04/2008 09:57

DD3 23m goes to bed anywhere between 7:30 and when we go to bed.

She still settles downstairs.

On a typical day she will settle between 8 and 9 but if we let her oversleep during the day it can be 10-11.

I am not worried in the slightest about any of teh above because I don't think 8-9 is unreasonable for her, it means we/she gets time to play w/o DTDs around when she can really show off her cute side.

OK, the 10-11 bothers me - BUT I know that is our fault for letting her sleep at a bad time during the day and it doesn't happen too often.

I know that when she is ready to drop the daytime sleep she will settle closer to 7:30, but until that happens we are happy as we are.

DJCod · 06/04/2008 10:06

TNR
this is how i woudl do yours( and did do similar)
move dd( the 8 year olds) bed time forward to 7 30
so 6om all upstairs for a bath or to get into pjs.
then send the oldest tow down to go and watch little bear tel dd sh eis in cherge. get baby out of bath, and give ita nice massage on a ma in awarm dark room. dress then breastfeed in a dark room etcetc

then put in cot and go and do ds.( the middle one) if bay is still howling at this point go and cuddel till amost alseep.

then let dh do the eldest

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