My granddaughter is 8 years old. From a very young age she's always been overly talkative, hyperactive , interupts when people are talking and can't wait her turn. out of all my grandchildren, she was the hardest by far to look after but I didn't think too much of it at the time. Last year, my daughter and my grandaughters father split up, it was a messy split and he was just cruel and vile even though he was the one who left to be with someone else. and her behaviour just got worse. She has the most awful screaming fits, throws things, hits her mum and me and is just out of control. She cries every single day without fail about something or other . Every morning before school, myself ( if my daughter is in work) or my daughter will do her hair and the screaming fits start if we haven't done it right. It can sometimes take five or six times to do her hair and it's still not good enough. Even if we get her hair near perfect, it's still not good enough and she goes into a rage. She's very disruptive when around my other grandchildren and will cause arguments with them just for the sake of it. We are drained with her behaviour and it's not fair on her two sisters who are pleasant and well behaved. When she's good ( which isn't often) she can be so lovely to be around but I've never seen anything like it when she starts her rages.
There are no issues in school, she has friends and we've never had the teachers complain about her behaviour, it's only when she's at home. We've taken her abroad with her sisters and had many caravan holidays and they always end in misery because of her behavior.
I understand that her parents breaking up has affected her to some degree and she has become very clingy to her mother. She rages if her mother wants time out with friends and she won't stay with her father. She loves her dad but it's like she's become obsessed with her mum.
we've been told that the school has to refer her for assessment but if there are no issues in school, where do we go from here.
im thinking of contacting a child psychologist but how do I go about it. It's not something I've had to think about before.
Any advice would be appreciated.