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Toddler not joining in at nursery - says it’s too easy.

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TGLucie · 24/05/2024 16:20

My little boy will be 3 next week. For context, he can count past 150, counts in tens, reads basic CVC words, talks about space and the planets. His nursery are saying he's advanced educationally but clearly delayed socially and emotionally because he will walk off from activities and not engage.
However, when he comes home he says it was 'easy today Mummy.
He isn't due to go into the pre-school room until September but I feel he's bored because he's not being challenged. However, I feel like an awful mum because he's showing them challenging behaviours by not engaging with the activities. Any tips on what I can suggest or do on my part?

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steamedisbest · 24/05/2024 16:23

sounds like he’d benefit from pre school

steamedisbest · 24/05/2024 16:23

and it’s not long away
so just say to him to focus on playing and having fun

skkyelark · 24/05/2024 21:52

What sort of activities are they asking him to do, and what sort of activities does he like to do? Are they expecting them to do quite set things, all listen to a story, all make some handprint craft, or is it more than a range of activities are offered, but he doesn't engage with any of them? (At two, it should be free choice, although a good nursery will notice if a child never chooses a certain type of activity.)

Things like painting and play dough are hugely flexible in terms of level – he can paint or model at whatever level he's at, whatever he's interested in. Small world play is similarly quite flexible, he can play out elaborate stories with whatever they've set up. Building toys, again similar. What about gross motor stuff, swings, slides, sand pit, balance bikes/tricycles, whatever they have in the garden, does he like those things?

On the other hand, if they're doing basic counting to five stuff or reading the Three Billy Goats Gruff for the 20th time, I can well imagine he's not keen – what needs unpicking is why that results in challenging behaviour instead of him pottering off to the duplo tub to build a rocket.

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