14 week DD is v... clingy

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DD only really sees me every day!! DH comes home from work when she is in bed and don't have any family nearby. In the last few weeks if someone from baby clinic, or HV has held her then she has just screamed. Prob making it worse by taking her back as v. embarrassed at all the noise.

I don't have any family nearby and don't know my neighbours at all!! Would like her to feel happy with different people, without them feeling umcomfortable with her crying. Also bf here and she won't take a bottle from DH so perhaps there is an attachment so to speak.

Would like DD to be sociable and for me not to be filled with panic everytime someone asks for a cuddle (for dd not from me, although prob would cuddle if asked!)

any advice???

Thanks

She's still awfully little, isn't she? I don't think she's old enough yet to really change her behaviour in this respect (though I'm sure someone with more experience than me will be along soon!)

I think some babies just don't like being held by anyone other than mummy. Some grow out of it and some just always prefer to be held by a select few.

Try not to panic yet, I've certainly never met a baby that doesn't sometimes cry when held by others - they don't exist!

And maybe have a few stock phrases ready so that when someone asks if they can hold her, you feel prepared and can deflect them (i.e say no!) them if you think it's a bad idea.

Don't worry - she will socialise when she is ready Sounds like she would rather stay close to the milk bar.

Have you thought of local mum and baby groups? NCT if you are in UK?

I think you're expecting too much, she's very very small and you're her whole world. Just go with the flow, say no to people if you don't think she's going to like being held, they won't really mind and will understand.

I had this problem with my dd when she was around 4 months. She was fine one day and then out of the blue started screaming if anyone else held her. This lasted a good few months and I just had to grin and bear it!! dd is now 16 months and I have come to realise it is part of her character!! She still has moments when she is very clingy and shy especially around certain people!! Everybody used to reassure me by telling me how much she loved me!! At the time though it wasn't what I wanted to hear but a solution!!!!