Toddler bullying if your child is only target??

[MrsB2024]

Hi, new here and just looking for some friendly advise please.

My less than 2 year old has been attending nursery since she was 3 months old. During this whole time from when she was unable to crawl to now being a spirited toddler she has been repeatedly "attacked" - sorry, but I dont know what other word to use right now...... by the same child.

It consist of pinching and 9 biting incidents, 4 to her face - all done by the same child.
The 2 toddlers even came to blows when said child had bitten my daughters face the other week, my daughter clamped down and refused to let go of her hair so now she is fighting back and I'm not sure I like that either.

Have met with the nursery, this is how I know it is the same child, and now my daughter is learning to talk she tells me often the child's name and how they have hurt her.
We have spoken about behavioral plans and it has been confirmed my child is the target by nursery staff. They have confirmed that my child is not antagonizing the other child or instigating a negative outcome.

I just dont know what to do about it - waiting lists are crazy so moving her is not really an option, although I have her on a few lists. Looking for help / advise - we starting to get to atleast 2 incidents a week now and I am really concerned with how this is impacting my daughter.

Thank you.

What exactly is the nursery doing to ensure your child is safe in their setting?

They have advised that the child is on a one to one ratio but this is not stopping her. Just this morning I was called within 30minutes of dropping her off and told my daughter was sitting in one of the nursery workers laps when another incident occurred.

I'd be taking my little one out, demanding a meeting to find out their next steps seeing as the 1-1 supervision isn't working and then filing a complaint. Surely this is now a safeguarding issue.

Filed the complaint, and have had the meeting - they have asked me to bear with them whilst they work with the child. Just trying to figure out where my limit should be.....
Unfortunately removing her isnt really an option as Husband and I work full time, no other care options available and no other nursery's taking on for atleast 12 months - she is on the waiting lists though.
Such as shame because she has a wonderful time there on the days the child is not in.

Suppose I just wanted to sanity check and with you suggesting it is a safeguarding issue for my own child, which I feel it is, then maybe it is time to contact the owner of the nursery vs management.
Thank you @TTCJJB

No experience sorry @MrsB2024 but what an awful situation for you

That sounds very difficult for both you and your daughter!

How is the nursery organised, can the two children be kept apart? Even if not in separate rooms, in separate areas? If the other child is on 1-to-1, it should be feasible for the 1-to-1 to redirect him/her away from the home corner or the slide or whether your daughter happens to be at that moment.