I feel like I'm completely failing my son at the moment and I don't know what to do.
He's always had a very loud personality since a baby, but he's so loving and kind also. Over the years we've definitely gone through the waves of tantrums but nothing much more than expected.
However in the last year it just feels like its getting worse. Now I'm very aware he had a LOT of change. His sister arrived 10 months ago, he started school in September, we moved house in March and he is moving school next week. None of this ideal, but for the best in the long run.
We've tried to make sure we prepared him as best we can for the changes that are happening, me and his dad try our hardest to still have one on one time with him, we give him LOADS of praise when he acts kindly, achieves something, helps out.
Anyway on to the behaviour, he hates being told no to anything and if he's told he can't have something then it will be "well if you don't give me x then I'll throw/break/do this. If we go out to the supermarket he's generally really difficult, he will scream loudly and high pitched because he knows it gets to me (he doesn't do this any other time), he will constantly pick things up to put in the trolley and if he's told no will then start "I hate you, your the worst mum/dad"
If someone comes over, friends or family, even people we don't see often he will jump around, interrupt every conversation, lay across them, be generally really disruptive even if they've spent a considerable amount of time playing with him, watching him do things.
The same with me and his dad, I will sit and build lego with him or do playdough, we do his phonics, whatever he fancies but as soon as my attention goes to his dad or his sister he's constantly doing things to try and regain my attention. I don't get why because he has it lots!
He runs up and downstairs at bedtime, goes into our room and is loud on purpose to wake his sister up, we have to sit outside his bedroom door every single night.
He's rough with his sister, constantly lays on the floor and pulls her onto him, rolls on her, pulls her legs when she's standing...never enough to hurt her but she gets really frustrated.
Every method we have tried seems to fail. Time out he just runs around the house and refuses to sit down, how can I do anything about that?! I take things away and he just says he doesn't care/makes him even angrier. I've tried the method of not playing into the behaviour but me ignoring it winds his up and he will then start throwing things that are either breakable or valuable because he knows it will get my attention...I'm basically at a loss and crying every night when he's gone to bed because i feel like I'm failing him because I just don't know how to make this better.
At school he's great, he loves to learn and will pay attention. He makes good friendships, very sociable, loves his teachers. If he stays at grandparents he's an absolute angel, never any complaints...so it leaves me feeling like he hates being here ðŸ˜
Normal 5 year old behaviour? Something more concerning? Am I doing something wrong?! Any help or advice would be so appreciated