I split from my husband of 13 years back in June. He had an affair and then turned nasty. After years of financial and emotional abuse he drove us out of our family home. My kids and I 9 and 12 are currently living in a hostel. I'm doing my best and I am doing surprisingly well.
The children understandably are emotional and struggling. However I feel like I am being bullied. When they come back from dad's they are often rude and nasty to me. They dont allow me to have friends, if I go for coffee I have to keep it a secret, I can't talk on the phone. I tried to arrange a picnic in the park where friends can bring kids to all play together and I've had to cancel because my 9 year old is refusing to come.
They scream and belittle at me for everything, the food I give them, days out I plan, everything and I'm so tired.
They understand their dad made his choices and that's why we are here, but they treat their dad like he's the best and it breaks my heart.
I'm trying to arrange for them to have counseling but I'm struggling because I'm trying to do right by them. I feel like I'm being punished for my ex's neglect.