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Help with parenting my 9 year old son

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sophiepumpkin · 29/04/2024 13:53

My son is 9, he has recently been diagnosed with dyslexia. Since he was young we have struggled to manage his impulsivity and anger, sometimes directed at his sister or his belongings. He has big meltdowns still, usually over feeling bored and wanting to play on his PlayStation, or wanting to buy things. We can’t really take him into a shop without a meltdown - he has to buy something! He seems to struggle with low self esteem and feeling positive, he seems miserable a lot of the time which makes me sad. If he has ADHD he doesn’t meet all the criteria but I just know I am really struggling with him. I don’t know how to manage this erratic behaviour which seems to affect the whole family. More recently he has been lying more and getting anxious over things and has a real anxiety of anything that might cause pain, for example he refused to peel a potato yesterday because it looks like it might hurt him! He has a real fear of going to the drs. Attention span for anything other than PlayStation is lessening all the time, he’s stopped playing with Lego now and just wanders around the house complaining of being bored. I’m at a loss and would love some resources for raising tricky children who are a bit different. He can be loving and he’s very sensitive, invariably he will apologise and say sorry after a big meltdown. Sorry for the ramble.

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Crazycatlady79 · 30/04/2024 15:27

Have you sought any help before now, what research have you done, have you looked into different parenting strategies etc?
'The Explosive Child' by Ross Greene is a book I'd recommend.
It sounds tough for you, but I really feel for your lad. He sounds a lot like my 6 year old Twin 2 just from the few things you've said.

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