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2 and a half year old major meltdowns

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Flogirl · 23/04/2024 19:38

I am posting on here to get some advice. My 2 and a half year old has recently started having major meltdowns in the morning when it’s time to drop her to nursery in the mornings (she goes twice a week) and when it’s time to go to her nans who has her once a week. She won’t get dressed won’t let me brush her teeth everything is a battle she wriggles out my arms gets herself undressed and in the car she cry’s the whole way getting out of her car seat which is so dangerous I’m having to pull over so many times. She goes so red in the face she bites me hits me. But now it’s turned to also when I’m picking her up so I know leaving home is not just the issue as in the evenings now she does not want to come home which is so upsetting for me I have tried everything I don’t understand the patterns of the tantrums she is having or how to help with this. I’ve tried to make evenings at home so fun with new toys so that I can say to her we will do fun things when we get home. So now every morning and every evening is a battle it’s making life extremely hard and I’m not sure if the extent of these tantrums and the fact they’re happening every day morning and night is normal? I’m thinking of making a gp appointment. Any advice or shared similar story’s would be so helpful.

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Flogirl · 23/04/2024 19:42

She also gets so upset she wets herself in the tantrums she bangs herself against the doors at home when we get in to try and get out the front door it is relentless

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CadyEastman · 23/04/2024 21:40

That does sound a bit extreme. What do you do if she hits or bites or when she gets out of her car seat?

Flogirl · 24/04/2024 08:24

That’s what I was thinking and I just tell her no really firmly I say biting hurts you don’t bite and I keep pulling over to put her in her car seat I have now brought a Houdini strap which makes it harder for her to get out but if she try’s long enough she still manages to get out

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CadyEastman · 24/04/2024 08:31

There's some information on biting here from Dr Sears. Unfortunately offering a toy later won't help as she simply hasn't hit the capacity for delayed gratification for quite a while yet. It may even add to her frustration as she won't understand why she can't have the toy now.

How's her speech? We found that our DC2 had some speech delay which added to her frustration. You can check your DD's speech and understanding here Flowers

CadyEastman · 24/04/2024 08:31

*hasn't got the capacity

Flogirl · 24/04/2024 08:41

Thank you so much for your advice going to look into that. It’s strange because her speech is very good she’s spoke well from a young age however when she gets in these frenzy’s all she says is she doesn't like it or she doesn't want to go here or there or doesn't like me

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CadyEastman · 24/04/2024 20:25

Flogirl · 24/04/2024 08:41

Thank you so much for your advice going to look into that. It’s strange because her speech is very good she’s spoke well from a young age however when she gets in these frenzy’s all she says is she doesn't like it or she doesn't want to go here or there or doesn't like me

How did she do on the progress checker?

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