I don't know why DS1 does the things he does, (nor does he) does that matter/ Should I just focus on learning how to deal with him while he is in one of these behaviour patterns?

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I have posted a few many times about how DS1 can just change in an instant. It really upsets me and scares me too at times as I just don't understand why he does it. He doesn't seem to be able to stop when I ask why he is doing it and later, if we do discuss it, he doesn't know why he does it.

I suppose at the back of my mind I worry there is something wrong but he is absolutely fine at school.

If you point me to the other posts I'll have a look. Or you could tell me.

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I have made a note of the books and will look properly later when the LO is in bed, thank you, DTY.

avenanap - there are loads. All in behaviour.

How old is DS1? And your other children?

DS1 is 7
DD is 4.8
Ds2 is 2.9

Sorry NAB, just seen this. I know my 8 year old girl can be a bit mood-swingy sometimes, has he always been like this, or is it a phase? When DD is a bit mood-swingy, it usually coincides with her being tired/on a growth spurt - does that sound similar to your DS?

If you're VERY worried, maybe have a chat with your GP (when DS is not present)

No expert at all, but would agree that sometimes people (of any age) can behave really really strangely but there is absolutely nothing wrong with them.

I know I have the most bizarre mood swings and can be very aggressive for no reason but am fairly normal otherwise and manage to live quite a blameless life. I find it hard to know what's normal since I grew up in a genuinely odd family environment, and for years didn't realise that other people were like me too.

He started again yesterday at inlaws. We got ready to leave and he kept taking his seat belt off. After the 3rd time I took him in the house and rang DH. He said leave him there and he would get him. I told DS he had one more chance to stay strapped in or I would go without him. He stayed this time and was quiet all the way home.

Once home he pulled up all the front daffodils so he was made to pick them up and then hoover inside the car where he had thrown grass.

I undressed him and then he locked himself in the loo. He started saying he hoped I would die soon and I just ignored him.

We had talked about a code word for when he started to go into a mood as his cue to get control but he has decided it is his cue to start a mood! He has picked a new word this morning.

I don't think there is anything medically/physically wrong but I just don't know.

bumping for you nab

Thank you.

He was okay today.

I can't understand it. He really is like someone has flipped a switch.