Any help or advice would be much appreciated on this.
My 6 year old son has been so incredibly mean recently, it started around a month or so ago with him saying I hate you but during the last 2 weeks this has gotten worse. Today he has said he wishes I was dead, that he hates me and that I’m a terrible mummy. This was all in response to me asking him to help me tidy up some toys so that I could hoover and then get his new Lego set out. He wouldn’t help tidy up, and when he said he wished I was dead I sent him upstairs. He screamed and cried whilst I popped some music on quietly and carried on tidying up after some time I asked him to come down so that we could talk. He wouldn’t speak to me but i told him how awful this was, how I was hurt and upset and that his language was not acceptable. I think he took it in and said when asked that he didn’t mean it and didn’t know why he said it but didn’t go so far to say sorry and I didn’t ask for it but said he should think about what he might need to do.
Tonight I let my husband take over whilst i did some bits but I took him to bed, he asked for the Lego set and I again made it clear he would not be having this today. He started again saying he hates me and that Im a terrible Mummy and he doesn't want a mummy anymore. I again said this was not acceptable and got him in to bed.
truthfully I am at the end of my tether, I feel stressed and beaten by his behaviour, I cannot wait for the holidays to be over so we can go back to the normal routine, I work in a school so I am off with him for all holidays. I don't know how to stop him saying these things, or why he says them. for context I have an older son 18 and husband, we are overall a loving family and never speak to each other like this. I make a point of being affectionate with my husband and often grab the kids for a cuddle, not so much eldest. He has on occasion hurt kids at school but this has gotten better and he has learnt from this. I just don’t know what to do, I’ve shouted, cried been calm and nothing seems to be working.