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Violent behaviour every day

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AnotherCountryMummy · 04/04/2024 13:43

Every single day I get slapped, punched, pinched or spat at by my son. Sometimes it's also hair pulling or biting.

He's 2.5 years old. I've tried ignoring it, telling him off, explaining about kindness. I've even cried (not on purpose, I was at my wits end and he really hurt me). Nothing seems to work.

He's also kind and funny and loving every day, too. So it's not like he's violent constantly. But it's really getting our entire household down.

Please help, any recommendations. I'm starting to feel like a very bad parent.

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CadyEastman · 05/04/2024 07:08

Dr Sears has a useful article on hitting and biting here. I found that my youngest was hitting and biting through frustration at not being able to communicate with us. How is his speech and language?

AnotherCountryMummy · 05/04/2024 07:47

CadyEastman · 05/04/2024 07:08

Dr Sears has a useful article on hitting and biting here. I found that my youngest was hitting and biting through frustration at not being able to communicate with us. How is his speech and language?

Thank you! There are some interesting points in there.

His speech is very good generally, but I have noticed that when he's frustrated he will whine (not words, just a whining noise) and I'll have to remind him to use his words to say what he wants.

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CadyEastman · 05/04/2024 08:46

How did he do on the SLT progress checker I linked to? Wink

AnotherCountryMummy · 05/04/2024 12:44

We answered yes to all the questions and it says we are on track.

We've just had an example this morning - took him to the beach and had a great time, but when it was time to go, I got hit and pinched 😔

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CadyEastman · 05/04/2024 14:36

We've just had an example this morning - took him to the beach and had a great time, but when it was time to go, I got hit and pinched

That must be so difficult to deal with. How do you deal with it when he's behaving like that?

AnotherCountryMummy · 05/04/2024 18:06

Mainly just telling him that we don't hit/that it isn't kind/holding his arm or hand because once he's done it once, he'll do it again. It's really getting me down.

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Cittrn · 04/05/2024 00:38

Hi OP,
Sorry you are dealing with this, it sounds really tough.
Have you noticed a pattern to the behaviour or any specific triggers?
My DD is not violent like this, but will very often completely break down emotionally if there is something unexpected in her routine, or often in the transition between places or activities.

c307 · 05/05/2024 21:48

The same as my son, he's just like this. So I feel for you and am following the thread 🤞🏼

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