Ds is 27months. He has always been hard work but at the moment it at an extreme level. He’s my second and my first was by no means an easy child so I have experienced two year olds before. This feels like next level and I’m genuinely wondering if there is something else at play.
He just pushes against everything. Take him to the park - he cries and wants to go home. Give him lunch - he wants to get down and play. Tell him its “this way” to scoot home - he wants to go the other way. He is like it with absolutely everything. Unless something is his idea he will refuse and have a tantrum.
He is destructive and tries to break toys and other peoples things on purpose. He tries to hit and bite people. He tries to run into the road if I let him out of the buggy.
He has an extremely short attention span. He will ask to do drawing, draw one line and then ask to play with kinetic sand, then ask for telly 2 mins later, then cars. All day every day with nothing holding his attention for longer than a minute or two.
His impulse control is very bad. If we tell him not to do something you can 100% guarantee he will do it - so much so we never say it we just try to redirect him. If his big brother is constructing something with lego he will constantly try to run at it and smash it.
We have really tried being super patient and calm and remaining neutral where possible, no big reactions to bad behaviour and always really praising good behaviour but we are not getting anywhere.
I feel like I have such little warmth towards him, I am burnt out by him.
He had his two year check recently and the whole thing was a whirlwind of him dashing about showing the HV everything in our house, singing, dancing, climbing on her! I mentioned all this to her and all I got was “hes two”
He also always seems hungry but never actually eats much. He also has very runny gross poos still, i don’t think he’s ever done a formed poo.
Please any suggestions or ideas or thoughts… or wine.
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Extreme irritability
babepig · 02/04/2024 13:22
CadyEastman · 03/04/2024 06:33
I can understand you being exhausted.
When the HV did the 2 year check, did she check his speech and language or ask you to fill in the Ages & Stages and the Social & Emotionsl Ages & Stages?
If it says he needs some support I'd really Irene you to ask your HV to refer him for a hearing test and SLT. It's possible that he can be like my DD and have sine aspects of his speech that needs work.
The waiting lists are long and if it turns out that he doesn't need the support by the time you get an appointment you could always cancel 
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