Feeling guilty about how i am towards my dd 2.7 (she's a little live wire!)

[natsnix]

i'm feeling really guilty at the moment. dd1 is 2.7 has speech delay and also dealing with arrival of ds2 10 weeks ago. she has always been tantrum prone and a bit challenging but it seems to be getting worse. i'm feeling guilty because i don't seem to be handling her very well. my patience and tolerance seem to be non existant at the moment. i don't see the point in smacking at the moment. but verbally i'm saying some pretty horrible things e.g. "go away", "look what you're doing to mummy"... & swearing, although not directed at her. i know she is feeling really frustrated with the speech delay, but her understanding is good, and i suspect she is playing up just because she can. i set boundaries and stick with them. we spend the majority of our time together. she starts pre-school end of april. any advice, similiar stories/reassurance would be great.

My dd2 2.3yrs, much the same, understands everything can say few words and has terrible temper! Proper little madam she climbs on everything, has mastered all cupboard locks and stairgates and nothing is safe everytime i turn my back shes up to no good, keeps going in fridge pulling stuff out. If i tell her off she throws herself on the floor and kicks and screams really loud.
You are not alone i swear too, although same as you not at her just to get my own frustration out, and it must be ten times worse for you because you have a young baby to deal with too. Maybe she is feeling a little pushed out, is there any way you could take her out to the park..just you and her..not too bad for me as usually other kids at school and i've only got her during the day...i've started to try to ignore her tantrums and allow her to snap out of it.
It may get better when she starts pre-school structured play other children, some time apart may be good for both of you!

pre-school will make a huge difference...My DD is same age and I'm due to have number 2 any day now and my patience runs very very thin when she's acting up. She started playschool a couple of months ago and it takes the strain off a bit. Try not to swear though- maybe train yourself to replace them with innocuous words or she will pick up on it and say it back to you- normally in the middle of Tesco.

i wouldnt worry i have had a lot of days like that my daughter is 4 but and her sister is 2 and 1/2.
its can be difficult at times, sumtimes i think u need to count to ten certainly helps me, bcus like my eldest daughter they dont realise how pestering they sound they just want our attention.
my daughter is being tested for autism, you might find once your second one comes along u wont feel like thata nyway hormones r amazing things, i was going to recommend rescue remedy but not sure if you take it when pregnant, very good herbal remedy.
dont feel 2 guilty all parents no matter what anyone says our not always as patient as they think, give urself a break
good luck with no 2, hope all goes well